How can i get my dog like me??

Question

i have adopted a dog from a dogs home, its a white staffordshire bull, its only 15 months old, the kennel workers told me that the my dog was beatin by there last owners i think, but at the kennels he was happy to see me so i adopted him, but now he has become very shy and always thinks i'm going to hit him, which i have never done, i have had him for just over 6 months and its just starting to happen, when i walk over to him he bends down, or if i come in the room he runs behide the settee, what should i do, do i give him back to kennels or try and make him not be afraid of me, i dont want to give him up i dont what him in the wrong hands of people again he so sweet, just dont want him be scared of me,

Answer 1

stop trying to shag it!

Answer 2

You should ignore his fear, when he acts like he is afraid of you. If you coddle him or try to show him that ' all is okay ' you will be reinforcing the behaviour. If you ignore it and pretend that it didn't happen, he is less likely to be doing it out of habit, or to get attention.

You want him to see you as a respected leader, someone he can trust, someone that he can count on for protection. You don't want him to think that you don't have control of things at all, as it will make him more nervous and then he is forced on his own to make a decision as to whether he should be afraid or whether he should protect himself.

What you do, in your every day activities, be a person he can trust, be consistent, and show him what is expected of him. Even if he was abused in the past, he still wants to know the rules of the home and where the line is. Show him in a gentle loving way what you expect from him.

Do you have a crate for him? Maybe a crate, even with the door taken off, so that he had a place of his own that he could feel comfortable and secure in would help him.

Dog's also go thru a few fear periods. It is possible that this is just a fear period. If this is the case, just ignore it entirely. Try to include him, but don't coddle him.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if you mean you've had him six months and he is only just now getting shy with you, or if he always has been.

A lot of his problem I'm sure stems from his past as being abused. I'm sure he likes you if he acts friendly toward you, but you may be doing something that makes him nervous. You could be moving too quickly and startling him, or using a firmer tone of voice than he is comfortable with.

I have a dog that is very submissive and I really have to sweet-talk him sometimes to get him to come to me, even if he has done something bad.

Find something the dog likes to do, go for walks, chase the ball, go to the dog park, and do that with him. Talk to him all the time, I mean, really have a conversation with him, so that he gets familiar with all the tones of your voice. I wouldn't surrender him back to the place you got him from unless he becomes aggressive or dangerous. Lots of patience and lots of love, move slowly around him but don't try to shelter him too much. Make sure he is socialized with people and other dogs, if he is a dog-friendly critter. Lots of positive attention can turn him into a great dog.
I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

Give him 5 bucks ... no seriously your dog has a problem .
He will get over this with your help though ,
When you come into a room where he is ignore him , don't look at him don't talk to him , let him make the first move .
Someone was cruel to him and he thinks anyone who pays attention to him will be . Try to let him mingle with other dogs but be carefull because a scared dog will bite
One suggestion I have also is to go to the site below Cesar Millan " the Dog Whisperer " is probably the best authority of behaviour in dogs and you may find something on his site that will help you , I have seen several episodes on TV where he has faced this type of situation he has several books out which you could read .
good luck and please don't give up on your pet .. he needs someone to care about him for a change as you obviously do

Answer 5

If he was my dog, I would continue to work with him. Approach him in a quiet, gentle manner, never with a loud voice or upraised hands. Get down on the floor to his level and speak in a soothing manner, outstretch ur hand slowly, if he does not run from u, pet him gently while talking in a calm voice. If he accepts ur gestures, reward him with a treat and say, "good boy" Apparently he was very badly treated by his previous owner, but with consistent gentle handling, he will overcome his fear. If there are other family members, all should do the same. Refrain from loud angry voices or he will think they are directed at him and his fear will return. Have patience for a while longer, he deserves all the kindness you can show him as he has had a miserable cruel start in life. He is a young dog and can lean that not everyone is his enemy if u stick with it. Keep trying and hopefully you`ll be rewarded with his love and trust.

Answer 6

hey, it just takes time, my friend had a similar problem with her rescue dog but it turned out ok in the end her dogs a sweetie its still shy but friendly and warm once it gets used to you. maybe you could think about the way you approach the dog? could your stance appear threatening even if you don't mean it to be. maybe just let it come to you or go down to its level when you want so greet it?? I'm not too sure but the kennels you got if from should be able to give you some more advice.

good luck!!

Answer 7

You really need to see a behavioural trainer to help this poor lad, some dogs are just made this way. Your vet can give you a referral.
In the meantime, try not to loom over him, sit on the floor near the sofa and ignore him, wait for him to come to you.
If you crouch down and encourage him to come to you, its less threatening. Then give him an ear scratch, a brush, a treat or something else that nice.

Answer 8

Unfortunately it may be something that will always be there. You need to be extremely patient and give him plenty of praise and encouragement but most of all love and affection. Don't put him in threatening situations that could trigger these anxities. A good idea is to get in touch with a professional dog trainer for help. Good luck

Answer 9

The best way to deal with any animal that has been beaten, is love .He needs you to pet him as much as possible. be patient with him.If all he knows is abuse, its going to take time for him to trust again. I'm sure that if you love him and pet him he will end up the most loyal and loving pet anyone could ever ask for.Just remember the more you show him that your hands will not hurt him, he will grow to trust you. It will take some time. But dont give up.

Answer 10

well, don't give up on it. that is the worst thing to do. if the people said that his last owners abused him, don't be suprised unless he has just started doing it. occasionally give him dogs treats and lots of love. dogs love it when you talk to them, they just love to hear your voice and know that you are talking to them when they see there is no one around. i've had bad experiences with dogs and giving up on them is not the way to go. have him sleep with you in your bed and pet him a lot. if or when he sleeps with you, tell him about your day, they can't understand it, but they love it, trust me. no relationship with an animal with a bad past mends overnight. it will take a long time, but it will be worth it.

Answer 11

Sit with your back to him. Rub his chest and under his chin when he is close enough. Lifting the chin makes him confident petting the top of the head of a shy dog continues to make him withdrawn.

Walk him on a heel for at least 30 min. Bring him back and rub under his chin again. Then look into his eyes. Glance away nonchalantly if he looks away then do it again.

Pratice every day and he will lose his fear of you.