I like my coworker, but she is dating another coworker... She tries to get me to go out drinking with her and others from work every now and then but I tell her no. She tries to talk to me at work but lately I have been giving her the cold shoulder. Am I doing the right thing? I know she's in a relationship and I think she only wants to be friends with me. I will not settle for a friendship. Should I continue to keep my distance? I'm just tired of getting my hopes up everytime we are together only to be let down.
2007-03-22 13:32:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
'm not doing anything to harm her in anyway. i just feel it is too difficult to be friends with someone when you want more than a friendship. I have no intention of breaking her and her boyfriend up
2007-03-22 13:32:20 · update #1
that's a good question.
don't make her feel like she's doing something wrong and that your being negligable. tell her you're busy. tell her you always have things to do when you get off of work and don't have any time. if you keep telling her you have plans then she will stop asking. say to her...that sounds fun but I'm busy tonight.
2007-03-22 13:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you can't deal with her wanting a platonic relationship with you, she is being made to feel badly. You keep turning her down when she's merely trying to be nice and invite you out with everyone.
You have to think of it this way: what if she were to break up with her current boyfriend. If you continue treating her like a leper, do you think she'll even consider talking to you in a romantic way? No. She'll remember the way you treated her while she was in her old relationship. Be kind to her as much as you can. I know it's difficult, but she didn't do anything to warrant being treated as an enemy. :)
2007-03-22 20:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know maybe what her relationship with the other guys like, maybe she might be trying to test her options u know might like you and like the other guy but maybe spending just a little friendly time might probaly let her know who shes most comfort with, then again i understand you dont want to look like you home wrecking hanging out with some ones girl, i suppose keep it friendly in the workplace at the moment see how it goes may be if you have a few mates out side work bring them along it might just make it casual if you and her go for a few drinks after work. hope it helps,
2007-03-22 20:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by sugarpantsangel21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a major love triangle.
The only thing I can add is that maybe they are not serious and you have the wrong idea of exactly what their relationship is. You need to ask her directly. No one knows better than her
2007-03-22 20:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her, go for it! she going out with someone that's not means she like the guy!!! she likes YOU! on the mean time she dont want to be alone...start as a friend..that let it grow...if is growable...good luck!
2007-03-22 20:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Roger S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋