I slept with a girl about a month ago, she said she was single... but it turns out she has a boyfriend (He is a Biker) and he has found out about me! He has my number and soon will probably know where I live...
He is going to call me again soon, what should I say or do??
2007-03-22 13:15:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I already told him the truth... but he wants more...
2007-03-22 13:31:29 · update #1
I'm assuming that you had given this girl your number, and now she's given it to him. Not much you can do there. Explain to him that she had told you she's single, and that you didn't know anything at all about him. Do that from the get-go. Don't avoid his calls--that's only going to anger him further. Also, don't point out that any girlfriend that would lie to a guy (saying she's single) to get sex is really worth hanging on to in the first place--while that's a true and valid point, it insults her, and will serve to anger him further.
Just be honest. Any lie will just give him something to find out about later, and he'll come looking for you again. Only this time, he'll not be interested in talking to you. Even if honesty doesn't get you out of this fix, you'll have given it your best shot.
If after talking to him he either doesn't understand, or throws a string of threats at you, you'll do good to go to the police with everything you know about this guy as well as the story you just told us. If the girl had given you her number, give that number to the cops. Give them anything at all that you can to allow them to identify who you're talking about; by threatening you (if he does, which is likely), you have all the excuse you need for a restraining order. With cops involved, he and his crew are bound to figure it just isn't worth it and let it be.
Doesn't sound macho enough for you? Well, you could take him on... but be aware that if he is indeed a biker, he's got friends. Lots of 'em. That's not saying you shouldn't make a stand for yourself (whimper, and he'll lose any respect he may have had for you), but do so sticking to the facts: You didn't know about him, therefore meant no disrespect. You acted on what she told you. It may even work to ask him to put himself in your shoes: "What would YOU do if you were me? A beautiful girl, says she's single... wants to come home with me... what would you have done?"
Lots of luck in this!
2007-03-22 13:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by writersblock73 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not the type of person to do something like that and you asked first if she had a b/f and she said no and that is the only reason you had anything to do with her and you are very sorry that you didn't know. It takes a man to be straightforward and honest he will respect that and may just give you a warning or something. (whatever bikers do) Take care and you now have a reason to be a little more careful in the future about getting to know a girl a few weeks before doing the dirty.....take care Heather
2007-03-22 20:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls, just tell him the truth. You didn't know. If he comes to your house to start trouble, you may have to call the cops. Fighting isn't worth it. You never know. It might not go that far. All bikers aren't like everyone thinks.
2007-03-22 20:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by btjuana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he calls just tell him the truth. Tell him that his girl said she was single. Tell him that his problem is with her not you. If you are afraid of him then tell him if he keeps bothering you that you will be forced to file harassment charges. If that does not work then do it.
2007-03-22 20:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's harassing you, then you should call the police. You did nothing wrong, it's his girlfriend that messed up. Tell him that you don't want him or his girlfriend calling you. If has already threatened you, then should contact the police immediately.
2007-03-22 20:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any chance of you seeking him out first? How about her, are you in contact with her? Maybe she should explain herself to both of you. Sounds like a creepy situation, good luck.
2007-03-22 20:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha that will teach you sonny but not to worry!!
tell him you have now given up women
along with the smokes
& that you would prefer a smoke lol
2007-03-22 21:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can't do anything or he'll get in big trouble. If he calls you again you can get him for harassment.
2007-03-22 20:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by generalkim2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he wants with a tramp.....Tell him he can have her...and for a couple ben's and a grant I'll help you out
2007-03-22 20:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go a head ang get help. i know men you it by fighting but you will get in jail. call the po po's and let them know now!
2007-03-22 20:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by dejah099 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋