all my friends are mostly popular and stuff but im just avarage.. and this guy liked me but when i got to know him and stuff i started to like him too. but all my friends think he is so ugly and gross but i meen, he really isnt a bad guy. and im afraid that if i go out with him my friends wont like me any more so.... idk hmmmmm. if you were me what would you do? i wnt to keep my friend but go out with this guy too.. HELP!
2007-03-22 13:09:57 · 21 answers · asked by Bree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i was kinda in the same place as you, i was just average, my boy at the time was to and all my friends thought he was icky or whatever, but what it came down to in the end was what "I" thought of him, my friends would get over it, if they can't then they can get stuffed, if you like him and don't think he's gross then stuff the world, go for what you believe in!
Sorry if that's a big long, but we girls place too much on what our friends think and it really shouldn't matter.
probably didn't help much but hang in there. :)
good luck xx
2007-03-22 13:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well - I am trying to place my mind into my high school years. I mean, I remember when highschool was SO important and it was So important to be popular - because that is just the way it was. But now that I am grown up I am sitting here asking you "what in the world makes you think that they are even your friends?" seriously. If they can't support you then they aren't real friends. If you like this guy - then you shouldn't care what your "friends" think. Just do it. Find yourself some real friends.
2007-03-22 13:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright, first of all, and you've probably heard this a million times....they aren't your friends if they cannot accept you for who you are... and that is true. And if they cannot accept that you like a guy who likes you back and isn't "bad" then maybe they are not the right friends for you.
Ask yourself this....Does he make you smile?
Do you like being around him?
Does he drink?
Is he ugly to me?
WHen you answer questions like that it is then you relise that he is either the best or the worst. Does he like you for who you are? Does he like you because you smell good? If he can score positively on that kind of stuff then he is probably your kind of guy.
I bet you've heard the likes of this a thousand times over, but maybe the 1001 time is the charm, eh?
I hope I've helped, if not you, others.
Hope you make a good desicions whatever it may be.
Just average....as if!
(If I were you I'd feel lucky to have someone like me because I am me and not because of some status thing)
-Me! -P
P.S. Don't forget eyes are only the things on our faces that see illusions....I think....
2007-03-22 13:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Minun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep your friends, for now, if they dont approve of you going out with the "ugly duckling" and dont talk to you afterwads, then they weren't very good friends after all, huh? Maybe he is the real friend. go out with the guy and have fun. You like him and that's all that matters, right? hope so. It's your choice and you never go on looks or other people opinions. You have a mind and heart and feelings and it's your responsibility and right to use them all and you deserve to use them all for your own judgement and choices in life from this day forward. not theirs. so, go out , be friends and have fun with him. If you dont let him kiss you or anything this first time. He will not get mad (or he shouldn't if you say "not right now" if he tries)and you will not feel funny for doing it and then you should know if you want to go out again.
2007-03-22 13:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are good friends, they'll stick by you whether you date ugly guys or not. Besides, the guy you like doesn't sound truly ugly...maybe just not so popular. Its not worth losing a potentially great guy to fake friends, so I say you should go out with him. If you friends ditch you, make better friends. I'm sure at least some of your friends will stick with you anyways!
2007-03-22 13:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by steffo:D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your friends, who you go out with won't matter. If they like you, they like YOU. This doesn't mean they have to like him, or hang around him, but you can choose to spend time with him and different time with them.
If they stop being your friend, just because you chose to go out with someone whose physical appearance they don't like, they were never really your friends. But you should stop and wonder if you really want to hang around with people who judge others so harshly by just physical appearance that you even have to worry about this.
I would go out with the guy, because I wanted to, and find out if they are my friends at the same time.
Now if there is a real reason they don't like him, you may do well to take that into consideration. (Say if he hurt someone, or gets in trouble, etc) However appearance should not be thier concern.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 13:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Giggles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad dilemma. Let's see... if I was you, I would try to compromise between the guy and the friends. Ask yourself if the guy or your friends is more important. It's not really your friend's place to criticize your choice in guys. My friends think I have a VERY strange choice in guys and one of my friends used to ahte the guy I like. If that guy is worth it, try and convince your friends that he's not that gross. Hope that helps :)
2007-03-22 13:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friends do you have? A friend is supportive and caring about your feelings, you shouldn't have to hide your personal feelings about a boy because of rejection from your friends. If the boy gives you butterflies- fly away with him! If you friends give you lip about it, because of judging a person from the outside, then they need to go reevaluate themselves. As well as you for having them as friends! Good Luck- Change Up!
2007-03-22 13:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by mahoganay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come now. Go out with the guy. If your friends aren't friends with you for something like that, you need some new ones anyway.
2007-03-22 13:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Tialiarhetta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're friends aren't the ones dating him so why should they care? And if they are going to drop you as a friend because the guy you like is different - then sweetie they are not your friends anyways.....sorry go for the guy and see who your true friends are.
2007-03-22 13:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋