I like him. But everytime I see him I get really depressed?

Question

There's this really cute punk/goth guy (not emo) in my class. And I really really like him. Everytime I see or pass him in the hall I get butterflys. And everytime I go somewere I hope he will be there. But he is in a total different style than me. He's....umm. And I'm like a kind of tomboy girl thing....i dunno what I am!

Anyway, but lately when I see him I get really depressed and I feel like I am about to cry. I have no idea why! The best reson I can come up with is that I know that we will never be together.

Plus he does drugs. And I don't. But I don't really care. My friends don't even know I like him. No one does. Except I know he does. I see him look at me. And he told his friend.

Don't tell me to talk to him because I can't. I have had variouse opertunities to ask him out. But I just can't!

Plus what is really bad is that he failed twice and is still in the 6th grade. I am now in the 6th grade and no matter how hard I try I can't get over it! He is a freakn' 15 yr old and I'm like Pfft. 12?! NOW I FEEL ANGRY!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!

But you know what they say "Opposites attract."

Answer 1

I'm going through something similar right now at my college, so I know exactly how you feel.

First ask yourself "why you can't"

I see no reason why you can't. So what if you two aren't similar, doesn't mean you can't have fun and enjoy each other's time.

The drug thing, he will get over, I did, for the most part...

I think being in relationships with someone that are your complete opposite is a good thing. You learn a lot from these types of relationships from each other, and you always have something to talk about.

I think you should try and talk to this guy, or talk to one of his friend's and see what's up.



(edit) Hmm, I see alot of people bashing this kid because he does drugs. So what. I do them on occasion. I use to be addicted to various drugs from time to time, but I had priorities and those came first. I dated a respectable female when I was a frequent user of drugs, and not once, did I ever ask her to take any with me, nor would I even allow it. It's only a problem if YOU LET IT BE A PROBLEM. But what do I know, I'm just a drug user right? Pff. I'm the nicest and probably most intelligent guy you'd ever meet, for those bashing this kid.

(editx2) To the guy above me...

You are stereotyping "drug" users. I highly doubt for one this kid is a drug ADDICT. There is a big difference in a drug user, abuser, and addict. Addict is what you WANT to stay away from, even though I once was one, I still got through school, work, and had a very nice, healthy relationship. I may be the exception as you say, but don't think because he does drugs (he probably only smokes pot, completely harmless, compared to cigarettes and alcohol, and everything else) doesn't mean he isn't a nice, caring guy, and I am proof of that.

Worst comes to worst, if you do get in a relationship, and it's not what you expected, get out of it. This is all a learning process. We all learn from our mistakes. And I highly doubt because this kid smokes a little pot will effect who he truly is inside.

Answer 2

ok, so he's a goth guy who uses drugs at the age of 15, has failed grade 6, knows you like him and does nothing about it. Hun, not only is he not a catch, he doesn't care. So you shouldn't care. Try liking a guy that has at least one thing in common with you, a guy who has goals in life, and a guy that cares enough to speak to you. It's fun to chase after the hard to get guys, but it leaves you standing alone.

Answer 3

The last thing I will tell you is to talk to him!! In fact, I will tell you to stay as far from him as you can.

You do not want to be involved with anyone who is in active addiction. I know you say you don't care, but believe me you will!! Take it from someone who knows firsthand. Either he will being you years of misery or you will become a user just like him. There are no other alternatives to this.

To tell you the truth, just because you are attracted to someone, does NOT mean you have feelings for him. Feelings take time to develop because they come from spending time with someone. So move on and find someone who deserves your sensitivity.

(edit) To the guy below me...even if what you say is true, you are the exception, not the rule. Most addicts, junkies, whatever politically correct term you want to use, destroy everyone and everything around them because they don't give a f**k about anyone but themselves! Why should this girl subject herself to that risk? Get real and stop trying to defend your past mistakes!

Don't even CONSIDER getting into a relationship with this guy, he is bad news period!!

Answer 4

Sounds like teenage anx to me. It's cute though. I can understand and respect the fact that you know that this guy isn't for you. However you obviously have a full blown fantasy in play as far as he's concerned. Nothing wrong with it, except fantasy is supposed to be fun. It's not working for you in that respect, so I'd say find another guy to center your fantasy on. Good luck.

Answer 5

i feel the same way but im in jh and the guy i like brings a lighter to school goes off campus for lunch and then does who knows what once he came back to school stoned. but i still like him i cant talk to him unless im in a group with my friends and i wish i could always see him sometimes i do end up seeing him when i want to but that has only happend twice and anyway hes going out with my best riend it sucks but im starting to learn hes not right for me my parents say three are better people out there and i know there r just try to forget about him i no it is hard sometimes but just try if u wnt email me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

Stay away from this loser, really , you say he does drugs.
I'll bet you didn't know people that use drugs have involuntary bowell movements.
If you don't know what that is, it's when he poops his pants because of the drug use.
I'll bet if you went over to his house for a night of hard sex you and you looked around good enough you would see crusty poopy underwear laying around, probably hidden.
If you get close enough to him smell real good, I'll bet you'll see what I'm saying, he's a pooper girl !

Answer 7

If you have had a chance to ask him out and didn't there is nothing you can do. When you get older you will probably have an easier time talking to people but if you are not going to do anything about it then all thats left is to forget about it. If you don't go for it at least once, your life is going to suck. Don't think about it so much and just do it.

Answer 8

Your life isn't meant for draining down with the drugs. Neither do you have to dedicate your life to cleaning up one person's addiction.

Your reason for depression is not very wrong. but you can always sit and ask yourself if it's worth being so depressed.

Answer 9

I would get depressed if I saw him too. Cut guy who dresses weird and on drugs too - what a loser. Keep your distance. He's nothing but TROUBLE. Be better than someone who just wants the bad guy..there's no future with them.

Answer 10

I know why you are depress! You like him to much, that's why! He might not like you or be the kind of type of boy for you. Cause' if he cares than he would mostly hang around you.