Im 21 years old. im a good looking guy, im in school and have a promising career ahead of me. A couple months ago I was in Europe and took a trip to Prague. I went to a club with a bunch of guys and we all went to this strip club after. One of the girls came up to me and asked if i wanted to have sex. I was drunk and this girl was half naked, so i payed the hundred dollars or wutever. I knew it was legal and the girls are cleaner when its legal. The next day i really thought about what i had done and was disgusted with myself to the point of near depression. I still get anxious thinking about that night. I feel worthless sometimes thinking about how i could do such a thing. I feel obliged now to tell any future girlfreind about this. Do you think i should? i am an honest person, it would be hard going on knowing that she might leave me if she knew the truth. This really sux. Im a good guy i just made a mistake. i didnt catch nething by the way i got tested. is this forgivable?
2007-03-22 13:07:02 · 22 answers · asked by sal v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is absolutely no need to tell any future girlfried that you had sex with a prostitue unless of course, you were putting the future girlfriend's health at risk by giving he a sexually transmitted disease. Apparantly, you say that is not the case, however, were you tested for AIDS?
If you are free and clear from all diseases (including AIDS) then I would keep that little piece of information to myself.
It's not as if you were married and you cheated on your wife with a prostitute, so cut yourself a break!
Everybody I know has had bad judgement calls at one time or another. STOP beating yourself up!
I do believe you are a Good Guy, because obviousy you have a conscious!
So, pleasssssssssssse forgive yourself!
In the meantime, put it behind you, and DEFINITELY DO NOT tell your future girlfriends!
2007-03-22 13:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her unless she asks. Then don't lie.
What you should do is recognize that you are only human and that you made a mistake. Ask yourself, if your best friend or you brother did what you did, would you forgive him?
It sounds to me like you enjoy beating up on yourself. Can't you find a more constructive way to experience your emoyions? Get off the pity pot! What are you, Catholic or a Jew? Guilt is the most useless emotion possible. If you really can't get past it, then go out and find a prostitute who needs money to take care of her kids and give her money. Thank her for the opportunity to make a difference in her life. Hey! Why not get to know her and her kids? Maybe then you won't be so disgusted.
2007-03-22 20:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's entirely forgivable, because you did nothing wrong. No one cares that you pay a dentist or a massuse for their service, but only the weak minded get bent out of shape over a prostitute's service. She offered, you paid, you both got what you wanted.
I wouldn't volunteer the information that you slept with a prostitute to a future girlfriend. If she asks you straight up, just tell the truth, and let her decide what to make of it.
Life is too short to be ashamed for what you've done, when it was legal and no one was hurt.
2007-03-22 20:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow some balls, and accept the fact you got some pooty-tang from a european chick. So what if you paid for it, you pay for sex everytime you take a chick out. think of it this way..instead of taking your woman to Ruth Chris, you skipped dinner and went straight to the (dessert) Sex (the best part).
I would treat it as a sexual partner, and leave it as that. If any new girlfriends ask "how many partners have you had" call this EU Pro a partner and be done w/ it.
but yah..my first comment applies..grow some balls; sex is sex, and you ALWAYS pay for it in one way or another..
2007-03-22 20:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by m34tba11 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um it wouldn't bother me if my boyfriend told me, though it WOULD bother me if he kept seeing prostitutes. I don't know why you are ashamed? Did you have a girlfriend at the time? If not I don't see the trouble. But be careful because some places, even though they seem ok, are actually dodgy.
Most good places require the girls to have std checks etc every 3 months. If you get a std or etc, you cannot work there anymore .
2007-03-22 20:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honest you may be & that's a great quality to have but sweetheart, what you did in your past has no reflection on your future unless you allow it to......I honestly wouldn't want to know about my b/f's past sex life at all. I've been married for the past 6 years & with my husband for nearly 8 yrs now & can honestly tell you we have never discussed my past exploits or his, not because we'd judge each other, but because our past has nothing to do with our future.......your past has no bearing whatsoever on future g/f's
Any future g/f's have no right to know about your past [colourful or not] & you have no right to be off loading anything on her.....
You regret what you did & it's gone.....as time goes by so the thoughts of that fateful night will dim. Just for the sake of your conscience you could cause more problems where there shouldn't be any....leave it where it belongs, in the past. Let it die & bury it...........you have nothing to be forgiven for honey, just forgive yourself & forget, hell! it's not like you were in any relationship that you now feel you should be coming clean to......good luck.
2007-03-22 20:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why say anything? I had a girlfriend find out I had sex with a prostitute and she broke up with me over it. Men have been going to prostitutes since the beginning of time, it's the oldest profession. Do yourself a favor, never tell anyone about it.
2007-03-22 20:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just go out and tell her.
If I had a boyfriend, and found out that he was keeping a secret like that from me, I wouldn't be able to trust him.
And, it's always good to trust someone that you're with.
If she likes you enough, she'll get over it. Sure, she might be a little... shocked, if you're a good guy like you claim, but if it was an honest error that you regret, she'll get over it.
2007-03-23 19:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by xxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay so you are beating yourself up for something that 1000's of people do everyday! Get over it! I think that if you meet someone who is as judgmental as yourself then don't tell them about your indiscretion... if you however meet a well balanced, mature, woman who is openminded and loving then she will be happy and fine with you sharing your deepest secret. although, it really isn't that bad.
2007-03-22 20:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a guy.....any future gf should not care, as it is in the past. Get on with your life, you didnt do anything wrong even if you are a good guy
2007-03-22 20:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋