What does it feel like, and does everyone bleed the first time?

Question

Hi everyone, I'm a 22 year olf female, and still a virgin. I've had tons of opportunities to go all the way, but have always freaked out about the pain.

What does it really feel like the first time your hymen tears? Does it really hurt badly, and for how long?
Does every girl bleed when it breaks?

Thanks everyone, because I'm engaged, it's been 3 years, and would really like my man to penetrate like normal people, but i'm still too scared.

Answer 1

it hurts a bit the first time but not everybody bleeds and it's up to your partner too . i asked mine to be really gentle and he was . i didn't really bleed although i was a virgin then . don't know if being an active person caused that

Answer 2

Not everyone bleeds. It all depends on your hymen. If you use tampons and possibly had oral pleasures then it should help stretch your hymen and its less likely to bleed. Im not saying you wont because everyone is different. As for the pain the only way I can describe it is that it stings a little, not so much that you would need to stop. Just have him go slowly. If its too painful, try again later, having him penetrate more each time until you feel comfortable enough. This might be a difficult thing for your partner to endure since he is aroused but if he's understanding then it shouldnt be a problem.

Answer 3

Does it hurt. Unfortunately yes. For how long - the duration of the act, a little while after & everytime you do it for a short period until your body really becomes accustomed to it.
Be REALLY ready. Start by heavy petting including finger manipulation to stretch & lubricate things some. I think a lube would be good for a first timer. The amount of care your partner shows will be paramount to how it feels to you. If he's rambunctious & can't control himself it will cause you more pain - so it's a good idea to get him off first so he can take his time with you. Tell him to take it slow - very slow & increase insertion only a little with each stroke. I know this isn't a conversation you want to have, so when you finally tell him you are ready during petting tell him to go just a little at a time. I wonder if you on top might help you control the amount of pain - might be worth a go. Good Luck. It really does get better. The pain is not more than you can stand & the memory of anything other than 'yeah it hurt' will fade.

Answer 4

well me and my girls have talked about this and my friends that have had sex did not bleed at all!

But me on the other hand bled a lot! My first time i was so scared. I actually had to tell the guy to stop. First time we tried he could not even get it in because i was so small. The second time he did. And i thought i was going to die! But It was not NEARLY as bad as i thought it was going to be!
Actually, i got up and went to the bathroom and then the guy said, are you ok? i was like... um ya why? and then he showed me the sheets....... And there was blood everywhere.
It was about 2 more years before i decided i was ready to try again. 2nd time, no blood at all. just a little bit of pain. Then the 3rd time i had my first orgasm and then everything i went thro was worth it!

To tell you the truth hunny, every girl is different! You could bleed, you couldnt, but you wont know untill you try! And it might hurt, but it is sopossed to be about love. So just try to get thro it and i am sure you will be ok.

This may sound a little gross, but maybe you should try to play with yourself so you can losein your self up. it might not hurt as much

Good luck, and once you get past the first few times, you will be so happy!

Answer 5

its different for everyone. some people feel pain and some feel none. i was the type of person who had a lot of pain the first time. i almost cried, but i think i was crying more because my emotions. it hurts, but you get through it. and just think after the first time it wont hurt as much anymore. an then after the 2nd and third time itll all just feel good. with the bleeding i was bad too. i dunno what happened. the first time there was only some spotting, but the third time i poured blood and i was so freaked out. im a bad case though. so dont think your gunna have the same experience as me. i just want you to know what could happen if the worst happens. i hope this helps. just remember he's the man you love and things will be ok.

Answer 6

Not every woman bleeds and not every woman feels pain when the hymen breaks. If you were athletic in your youth or took ballet, that will break it. If you rode horses, that could do it. Don't be apprehensive because your mind will trick you. You are in love and if he does foreplay you will be ready. Don't make it a "have to" if you encounter a problem. Tomorrow is another day or next week! If it were all that painful women wouln't be getting pregnant! Good luck.

Answer 7

I am not female but I have had my share of first timers. if your guys goes real slow trying to not hurt you, it will hurt you. if he does it like pulling off a bandage quick with one single force he will be in and you will be grinning before you know what happened. if you have been doing lots of masturbating, you may not have a hymen. it could be gone already. then you gotta explain that on consumation night. I can hear it now, it was a birth defect, I was born without one. or daddy took it one night I wasn't willing so I am still a virgin. that may sound strange to you but it does happen all the time. the number of females that have been virgins to only find they were "raped" and weren't willing so they are still virgins. and if you want to be in control of your own de-flowering, break it yourself. sounds like you are aching for a breaking.

Answer 8

It hurts a little but not as much as you think. It gets better with time. You might enjoy it by the end of your first time if your fiance is doing his job right. But it might also take a few times before it gets comfortable for you, but it's really not that bad. Not all girls bleed. Good luck.

Answer 9

You're almost there...why don't you wait until after you are married? I wouldn't know, but I do know that not everyone bleeds, and not everyone even has a hymen prominent enough to tear when the time comes. I wouldn't be so worried.

Answer 10

I heard from women that it's not really painful since it is not only the pain that you'll feel. It lasts for a week. Virgins generally will bleed.

Of course, the men have various ways, some without any regard at all.

In the first place, their approaches should really be gentle.