My girlfriend and I have just started to become intimate and... (serious answers only)?

Question

Weve just started having sex and she doesnt seem to be getting any pleasure out of it whats so ever.
I am her first partner, but Ive had past expirence.
Other than this our relationship is perfect.
But Im scared if this doesnt change it will have a negitive effect.

Im am wondering what I can do to change this.
I know some women can be hard to please.
But Ive never had this problem before.

Advice from serious men and women would be great.

She wants to be pleased is what bothers me. Shes not scared and she told me she had no regrets.

Im just wondering maybe what are some tips to pleasing a woman that is maybe difficult to please.

Answer 1

You only need good communication to help with great sex. You've got to talk to her. That is sometimes hard but find out what she likes. Touch her and ask her if she likes it, or if she likes something else better. Take your time. Sex can get better. Communicate. Good luck.

Answer 2

You didn't state your ages, or how long it's been since you've started having sex. Since you're her first, and you've only just started becoming intimate, it may be too soon for her to really know what pleases her. And even though she says she has no regrets, she could be feeling guilty or ashamed, and that's affecting her ability to enjoy it.

However, since you're more experienced, keep the lines of communication open, try different things and different positions, get feedback, encourage her to share with you. Don't pressure her to have sex with you if she doesn't want it. And when you do have intimate moments, don't just have sex with her, "make love" to her. Include all the senses, set up the right atmosphere, take your time, engage in plenty of foreplay so that she'll feel comfortable and ready, whisper sweet words to her, make her feel like she's the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world. Give her pleasure and satisfy her before you get satisfied. And afterward, hold her in your arms, caress her, and let her know how wonderful it was, how much you care for her (or love her).

Answer 3

First, ask her what she likes such as kissing,kissing certain areas of the body, positions and setting a mood could help.
Try lubes to enhance pleasure and maybe experiment with toys, movies or games. If out what turns her on, when she want to and times of the day. For instance is she a morning lover or midnight madame.

Answer 4

fear of curiosity robs pleasure... if ya'll are a first time pair... you need to show and learn what pleasure is... we all went through it... Casanova didnt come out of the box as a great lover.. talk to your gal... get that communication goin... you WILL sound corny.. you WILL feel stupid... but only for a moment.. But you should never feel stupid about wanting to be a better lover... SHE WILL THANK YOU FOR IT!!!

maybe you are doing something she dont like... or maybe she is... or you wish more this or that... whatever... talk to each other so neither of you feel bad about being new at it all... and above all... RELAX and make it FUN

Answer 5

Get a good book, a bottle of Champagne, and a luxurious suite for the night. Read the book together. Try every trick and position in it. Talk to each other about what you are learning and experiencing. It will make a huge difference!

Answer 6

try talking to her ask what she wants and what she likes or dislikes maybe she isnt sure either or with it being her first maybe she just doesnt know how to handle all the mixed emotions that come along with sex try going real slow see how that turns out while talking just because it was good for some maybe not so good for others when you talk you also need to be an active listener

Answer 7

try things out, ask her what feels good her. she's still learning what there is and what she likes. it's kinda like a taste testing. sample this and that, let her tell you and guide you, she's the only one that can answer this. i'm not really sure if you're asking things specifically about intercourse or oral sex, so it's hard to give tips. and preferences are all over the place when it come to gentle vs rough and fast vs. slow. try it all, maybe she has ideas of what she'd like to try, get her to show you, make her take your hands and do... whatever. don't just let her lay there and say "ummm you suck" hand it back to her, say ok, what do you want, what feels good to you.

Answer 8

Your her first partner. Thats good at least you dont have to worry to yourself that "shes had better." Talk to her ask her what she likes , tell her to tell you what to do to her. (while your in the moment) I dont think you have anything to worry about. Its also good to start the night out right. Romantic! Make her dinner or take her out to dinner, use props: good food, candles, blankets, flowers, wine. Win her heart over before you get into bed then she'll know you really do care about her and your not just interested in sex.

Answer 9

it may not be the physical things boring her.it may be the fact that she is doing physical things with you , and she might be regretting it.When girls lose their self to a guy for the first time they either know it was the right decision 100%, or think it wasnt right.Virginity is a very sacred thing to most girls.She is probobly just scared or intimidated by your experience. just reassure her that it was the right choice or maybe stop focusing on the physical so much.she is most likely scared of wat she is doing and really loves you.just prove it to her one way or another....Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

Answer: slow hands. Satisfy her need to be hugged and fondled. Go without ultimate intimacy from time to time. She has not connected with you emotionally yet. She will, if you can relieve the pressure to perform.