why isnt he talking now?

Question

okay so i met this guy on my cruise, we had a thing and liked eachother a lot and after the cruise he contacted me and we talked a few times but then things died down a bit cause we live far away from eachother. about 2 months after the cruise i went to surprise visit him. he was really happy, and acted the same exact way as he did on the cruise. i was only there for about 20 minutes cause i had to go somewhere else. he contacted me after the visit and then things died down once again. 4 months after that in february, me and my friend contacted him because we happen to be going to college by where he lives in a few months and we were auditioning for dance. he said, of course, come hang out with us. we went there and hung out and once again, he acted the same exact way. he explained to me how me visiting the first time he was really happy but it was like giving him a puppy and then taking it away from him. he kept asking the question "can i keep it..is it mine?"..which was really cute. me and him talked for about an hour alone about everything. i left and he told me to text him when i got back to the hotel. he asked if i was mad at him for not talking to me all the time. i said no, and he said he can tell i was. but i wasnt, not at all. he texted me that night saying "thanks for coming cant wait to see u again." we spoke for awhile about the night and how we had fun and later on i said "goodnight have fun"..and he said "im going to sleep..all my fun left already." that night he commented me on myspace saying he had fun and he hopes to hear from me soon. two nights later he texts me again saying hey and we talked for awhile. i asked him to come to ny to see me, but he feels weird cause he doesnt know anyone and he feels as if everyone will "like him..then hate him" he said he would think about it, and i even said "we can go to the city." he told me "way rather see you then the city"..meaning it doesnt matter what we do, as long as i can see you..which was really cute. he then sent a couple of funny videos and one night his friends called me from his phone. i heard them say something about girlfriend in the background and he laughed and got on the phone and kept apologizing for calling so late..he told me he was really sorry and hed call me the next day. he was drunk when he called the last time, so he probably forgot the entire night because he didnt call the next day, and now we havent really been speaking..

why isnt he talking to me now?

Answer 1

This is a serious man you have here. He is not into games, wants to be loved, but is scared to death of being hurt. Perhaps he believes you to be too casual, when it comes to relationships. Another thing, the distance does not work for him. This man does like you a lot, he's just scared and willing to let it go to avoid future pain.

Answer 2

Because he is not ready for you. A guy like you describe still has some growing up to do. And if I were to go out on a limb I'd even hazard that he lost, in some sense, a parent. Not necessarily that they died, but he has emotional problems centered around attachment.

Answer 3

i almost lost u a couple of times there but i think he felt really sorry for bothering you that night and yah he probably forgot if he was drunk but he didnt want to call you and you be mad at him for being drunk and calling late.

Answer 4

you represent sex in bed and that's what his friends were all laughing about, i doubt he'll go out of his way to see you,

Answer 5

Found another girl!

Answer 6

He is probably very busy, or he does not care.

Answer 7

er....didn't you ask this one already??