My mom and I fight. She says that she is the one that is being nice but she starts the fights. Plus she balmes it on me. What should I do?!
2007-03-22 12:45:37 · 10 answers · asked by Horse_Shaped_Heart93 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not rise to her taunting... be boring and take up yoga... :D
2007-03-22 12:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a teenager, just know that most Mom's and daughters fight. It takes two. Although you think she is starting it, that may not always be the case. Nobody ever thinks they are the person who is the problem. Probably sometimes it's you,and sometimes it's your Mom.
Try to be patient and understand that Mom's get frazzled, have bad days, and sometimes take their frustrations out on their kids. Try to help her out as much as you can. Sometimes teens don't realize how selfish they are. It's not always about you. On the other hand, some Moms put too much on their kids. Try to sit down with her and talk some things out calmly, when your both in a good mood. Maybe in the car driving, or while your cleaning up supper dishes. If the conversation starts heating up, it's time to walk away and try again another time. When you are both already in an arguementative mode is NOT the time to discuss your differences. Neither is when she walks through the door from work. Those are the two worst possible times.
Someday, you guys will be great friends. It's just a "mother-daughter" thing!
2007-03-22 20:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by mschvs_65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a scenario:
For 25 years my mother and my aunt didn't get along. They both got on each others nerves and no matter how nice they tried being to each other, they always found a way to end up in an argument.
One day my mother asked me why I thought they couldn't get along. I said, "Because you're both too much alike."
After a few blazing words and a couple weeks went by, she approached me and said, "You know, I think you're right."
My point is as a daughter you're going to be like your parents in more ways than one.
It's pretty much a known fact that at times through their lives, mothers and daughters aren't always going to get along. Especially from about 12-22 (depending on maturity, etc.)
Here's my opinion: (Guideline)
She's your mother so back off and learn to be humble, modest and sincere and the sooner you go about doing this, the sooner she'll back off and over time you'll earn her respect.
2007-03-22 20:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are feeling that angry feeling brewing inside your hot head, take a deep breath and hold it with your cheeks puffed out. When you breath out, do it really slowly, and then start over again. Heated moments are only heated for a couple minutes, then if you let them pass, the flame goes out and you will be glad you let it go by. Take it from me, I have a really hot temper! I actually made that my New Year's resolution to try and be more controlled.
2007-03-22 20:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to keep thing cool, let her know you love her, and be patient, she may have had a hard day. it takes two to fight and it takes two to be friends.
2007-03-22 19:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont fight back just nod and acted like your listening
2007-03-22 19:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by baby face. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to her. if u are old enough than move out... what do u guys fight on?
2007-03-22 19:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to avoid it when it comes up and be really nice to her then work on improving your relationship withy her
2007-03-22 20:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by whomp a doodle doodle do 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone, and dont fight with her
2007-03-22 19:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by KerryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything to her and do whatever she tells you...
2007-03-22 19:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋