Alright, so I'm 15 and in high school. Here's the deal, my girlfriend decided to break up with me. Word got around to me before she actually did it. So according to my 'intel' she was going to do it at school on monday, the day i found out was friday.
So to lighten up my mood my friends showed me a wild night on Saturday. We ended up at a teen dance downtown. I met someone, and spent the majority of the night dancing and flirting with her. After it was over, one of my friends was throwing up, so everyone decided to take him home and then head over to another friends house. I decided to go with this new girl and her friends. We hooked up and I spent the night with her at her friends house (parents were gone for the weekend). Turns out that we have much more in common then a like for each other's lips, and we hung out the following day. Then comes the dreaded Monday, and guess what? No break up. I'm still with her, yet Have plans with the new girl this week. What now?
2007-03-22 12:43:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I thought the relationship was over, I didn't hear the wrong story, she WAS going to break up with me.
2007-03-22 12:49:10 · update #1
How about you read the story before you tell me I'm a jerk, thanks. If i thought it was over, then I'm not breaking any hearts
2007-03-22 12:52:55 · update #2
Maybe she heard the story about your cheating and thought that she wouldn't break up with you because she thought she could hold on to you,
It sounds like you are not ready to be exclusively involved wtih one gal so YOU really should break up wtih her as you are having contact with the other gal.
Cheating is never OK but you are too young to be tied down with one person.
I sincerely hope that you had safe sex.............I know that at your age your hormones are raging and that you want to have sex but be responsible and have safe sex............
2007-03-22 12:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Linda L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... That's an interesting story.
What you SHOULD have done was talk to your girlfriend when you heard the rumours. If you can't clear the air what kind of relationship are you really in?
No, cheating is not okay in any situation including this one. It's always best to be honest with each other. You should tell your girlfriend right away.
The good news is... the point of high school dating is to learn what and who you like as well as what you should and should not do. So you're not a terrible person and you shouldn't feel too guilty, especially if your girlfriend actually was planning to break up with you and you were going to be the last to know! That's just completely immature.
If things aren't going well with your girlfriend (and if you heard she might break up with you and didn't immediately ask her about it, they probably aren't) then you should probably have a long talk with her. If you think things with this new girl could really be great, be honest with your girlfriend and maybe even break up with her. She's going to be really angry with you, but the best thing you can do now is be honest. If she had come to you first with her problems, you guys wouldn't be in this mess. But you have to remember next time that you can't always believe the high school rumour mill. In fact, you should never rely on rumours alone.
Just call it a lesson learned! It's perfectly acceptable and expected to make a mistake once. Just don't make the same one twice.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 12:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica LeAnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never right! There are plenty of other ways to be cheered up from news like that than having a one night stand, which in your case, ended up branching into something more. Dude, you still had a girlfriend, even if you did think that she was going to end it! You should have waited until everything was official before you reached out to other girls. Now, look at the mess you've gotten yourself into! What if she never breaks up with you? Did you ever think about that? I bet you didn't! Besides, didn't anyone ever tell you to NEVER trust rumors? Geez! You'd better tell her the truth and then beg for mercy, or pray to your lucky stars that she doesn't find out! <3
2007-03-22 12:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by The Prep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating isn't right under any circumstance! That's what happens when you believe rumors. Seems to me you were up for breaking up with her instead of holding on and fighting for her. You're still young and no matter who you get ride of you will still have chances with other girls that will put you to the test once again. Just be carefull! Good luck!
2007-03-22 12:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by LUDA07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAKA!!!!!! smooth move ex lax. one way or another someones going to get hurt and who do you think you'll be with longer and happier? its all up to you at this point. ask your gf now about the rumor and tell her what happend if it goes badly and she wants out apologize deeply (mostly for being a horny boy) and if she still wants to be together guess what you have a choice tell the downtown teen chick whats going on or dump your gf now.
2007-03-22 12:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Vash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well on one side I would say that your girlfriend should've talked to you about it. but on the other hand you shouldn't believe everything you hear. but whats done is done so either you should talk to her and try to work it out and tell the other girl you have a girlfriend. or else brake up with your current girlfriend and you don't worry about it. just try and make things right!! Good Luck! You'll figure it out!
2007-03-22 12:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say break up with the old girl because even if she hasnt done it yet she has been wanting to so in the end she will sooner or later and it will save both of you a lot of problems. so i say dump the old girl and go with the new one
2007-03-22 12:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Baby D~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK with who?
Your GF probably wouldn't like it. If she was dumping you anyway, that hardly matters.
The girl you hooked up with probably doesn't care.
Personally, I think you're so young that relationships don't really mean squat. Just do what you want to and make sure no one gets pregnant.
2007-03-22 12:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a jerk, it's not ok stupid! Do you have any idea how much heartbreak hurts? It's worse than dying! I hope karma catches up with you!
2007-03-22 12:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♪♫TAY-LUR♫♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur girlfriendwat happened. explain the whole thing to her. tell her that its not fair to her to stay w/ her when she hurt u b/c of a rumor and that u cant b with her when u know that u could b happier w/ someone else. its not fair to let her think shes the one, when shes not.
2007-03-22 12:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by neverland22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋