my freind of 20 years has a daughter who will be married in april. the daughter is very spoiled and went to jamacia to get married, she came back and will have a wedding reception abot 2 hour drive from where we live. my freind called me yesterday and said her daughter ran out of invitations and told me the date of the dinner. i told her that if she ran out of invitations then she should go make more! would you still go or not???? i think it is rude to have the mother of the bride to call on the phone to invite me!!!
2007-03-22 12:30:41 · 16 answers · asked by tristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well it was rude to call you, and they should go buy more.. but either way,
they did think of you.. which is why i think you should still go
2007-03-22 12:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Jugan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think they should of did the proper amount of reseach to order the correct amount of invitations and i hope they will have enough thank you cards. It's always better to have more than not enough. It's not as a big of deal as you are making it, actually contimplating not going. But I would express to her how rude that is and they are not good party host. Especially for something as big a wedding and receptions and things. It all just sound so thrown together, ill. Yuk, how unorganized. My grandmother was an event planner so I do not play stuff like that. Go and I would brag about how organized my daughters wedding was and how you had enough invitations and things. HIWH
2007-03-22 19:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a rather lame excuse that they ran out of invitations (I mean in a pinch, they could always go to Office Depot or some place like that and buy a do-it-yourself kit and who would really know the difference?).
And it would have been better if the bride had called you.
I would be the better person and show up. My recommendation, however, is that you don't spend a whole lot of money on a present.
However, if you're really offended, explain to the mother that you simply don't have time to drive two hours one way.
2007-03-22 20:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would i do? i have always thought it rude of a couple to run off and get married and then give a party and demand gifts.
my girlfriend's daughter went to italy to get married, and was very vocal about why she went. she knew people wouldn't attend so by doing it that way she saved the cost of a reception.
when they came back to town they hired a hall, had a
'reception' that was a potluck meal. everyone had to bring not only their own booze, but mix, and ice. we were reminded: don't forget a gift!
the mother of the bride sprung for paper plates, plastic cutlery and glasses and paper napkins. the grooms mother suppled coffee with powdered milk and styrofoam cups.
both sides of the family are prominent people who, while they are not rich, they won't starve. the bride's father has his own business, mother is a realtor, the groom's parents are retired. both the bride and groom have good paying jobs....so none of their cheapness came from necessity. it all came from a spoiled, selfish, bratty bride and groom.
the bride wore blue jeans and a t-shirt, the groom was apparently in scruffy cut-offs and they had a photo of themselves in their wedding attire set up at the front of the hall. by 11:00 p.m. the 'happy couple' started throwing people out.......they had another party to go to. it was rude and offensive and a lot of hard feelings between old mates were made that night. a lot of old friendships were severed.
i didn't attend, i won't send gifts, though i will send a card wishing them well.
my girlfriend and i no longer talk but you know what? i don't care. she was so shallow as to destroy a 30 year friendship over the lack of a gift from me......no worries.
2007-03-22 20:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people have different ideas of what is right or wrong, perhaps they cannot afford any more invites? Have you thought of that? I know that I am on a really strict budget and really there is no flexibility in that. I think that at least she bothered to call you, perhaps she considers you a VERY close friend and felt that she could call you and ask without being judged...obviously not. She;s your friend of 20 years for goodness sake, are you really offended by that? Perhaps your friendship is not as deep as you imagined on your part.
2007-03-23 12:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its rude to go away to get married then come home and expect to have a wedding reception big enough to have run out of invitations. I know its pretty common for people to go away then come have a party at home, but I personally think its an excuse to still get gifts even though nobody attended the wedding ceremony. personally I wouldnt go at all, but I guess its up to you, but really, if they ran out of invites you know you werent on the top of their invite list.
2007-03-22 19:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you still want to be friends with the mother of the bride. If this happened to me and my spoiled daughter ran out of invitation I would not hesitate calling my friend of 40 years and tell her of the story.
I would go and consider it as being not rude if she is a true friend.
2007-03-22 19:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Florida Sun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is rude, this is a reception for a wedding, an invitation is required. They should have ordered enough invites for everyone. I had to order my invites in bundles of 25, so I did and I have extra, but everyone got an invite. I would go, because it is your friend, but tell them that you felt slighted.
2007-03-23 18:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Janice O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a little rude that the bride didn't call you and ask you herself...that would have been the appropriate thing to do. However, even though you didn't get an invitation in the mail...you were asked...therefore I think you should still attend.
2007-03-22 19:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude at all. I know that when I ordered my invitations online I was required to order them in increments of 25. So unless I wanted to throw down X amount more dollars than I was going to have to extend verbal invitations to those that didn't originally receive one. It's a legitimate argument and I quite possibly think you're the one being a snob.
I'm sorry but if you sincerely wanted to go you wouldn't be thinking this way.
2007-03-22 19:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a little rude, but when you think about it....this friend has been your friend for 20 years! Thats something to treasure...you'll have a good time, support your friend. Lifes no fun if you hold grudges. How they invited you was wrong, yes, but be the better person and show up full of love and support. Good Luck!!
2007-03-22 21:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋