i have at least 30 cousins, and 3 grandparents still alive plus my immediate family..
my fiance only has his dad in this state, his grandmother in queensland and aunt and uncle in western australia, and his mum and one sister in new zealand and other sister in england.
So it will be a long way for them all to travel, and i will feel bad if i have family there and he doesnt. I'll also feel bad if my family doesnt get to come.
What would you do if you were me? It's not going to be a big formal wedding, but it is meant to be special.
2007-03-22 12:29:18 · 9 answers · asked by zimba 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you didn't know already, the lady gets what the lady wants on the wedding day. I'm sure he'l agree with me on this. Try and work something out to bring his family over here, especially the mother and sisters. I'm sure your family will help you out with that.
2007-03-22 12:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry if it is lopsided. That happened at my wedding. Here I was with a big family, and big extended family, lots of church and work friends. Husband from Europe, only a brother here, his father and one sister flew in, other than than just a handful of friends.
So just plan the wedding as usual, inviting everyone you want - provided it fits within yours and his budget! Just watch at the ceremony, and don't have the ushers ask "friend of the bride, friend of the groom", because his side of the church will seem empty. Instruct the ushers just to seat people equally on both sides.
2007-03-22 20:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... looks like you're going to have to deal with reality.. and the reality is... your family is here, and his is scattered. It's not like they're all in one spot either, so you could go visit them on the honeymoon! I'd say.. marry where you are.. invite the out of towners.. some might surprise you and show up and others will send their regrets. Would be nice if you had someone take videos and send the out of towners a DVD of the wedding so they can see what they missed :)
2007-03-26 05:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have the main wedding where you want and then a reception with the people who couldn't attend the wedding? A cousin of mine got married in England and had a wedding reception in Toronto and in Dominica for the people who couldn't get to England. That way nobody is left out... and there are more presents for you!!!
2007-03-22 19:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by natalie d 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this might sound out of the question but, ELOPE! Have receptions when you return. Plan another or something special when you can be around his family (or at least immediate). Good Luck.
2007-03-23 00:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Consi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married and quit with all the romance of marriage. it's a life sentence and the chances of it being a life sentence to the same person is getting narrower and narrower every passing day. invite whomever you want and tell them if they can't come just to send money .if his peeps can't come, that's OK, there will be less people to remember your aspirations when the marriage is over. you will feel special because you finally hooked someone.
2007-03-22 19:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey girl this iz a hard question 2 aswer. but maybe u can ask what ur family thinks about goin away from their home and seein ur weddin. but think about it do ur family love u. would they love to watch u get married and do they want u 2 get married. if you awsered yes to all of those questions then i don't think ur family will regret commin down to see ur wedding. being there 4 ur family iz more important. don't u ppl agree!
2007-03-22 19:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by It's barbie bytch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have it where you want and send out invitations, people don't expect you to have a travelling wedding, his older relatives knew he'd get married someday, and it would be a long way to go.
2007-03-22 19:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what, its your day not theres. have fun, and i am pretty sure they will understand if they have to travel, if there realy happy for you and think this is a special day.
2007-03-22 19:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by Scarlet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋