i'm proud to say that i am single. two months ago, my ex cheated on me. when i found out, i snapped on him.he steadily calling me back.i dont want him back. whenever he calls my cell or my house i dont answer the phone.i only answer the phone when i feel like it whenever he calls. so the question is:what should i do to make him feel sorry for cheating on me?should i keep snapping on him?what should i do?
2007-03-22 12:26:08 · 11 answers · asked by datgurlnette601 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forgive.
Don't get "even"; hear him out and put him on a 'probation' of sorts to get him back into your grace.
He has lost his credibility; he has lost your trust. Both are very important character factors that make us who we are. So what to do?
My suggestions for you to address him:
1. Begin the steps to "rebuild" yourself. To kind of - reinvent yourself for the better. This means to go thru honesty exercises when you are alone and with friends. Become so forthright and open that people will begin to tell you to that what you're saying is "too much information" (just don't insult or embarass people)
2. Look at the game Scruples. Begin to note that there are proper &. improper behaviors. Practice the proper ones.
3. Talk with your pastor or priest. Someone you hold in high esteem as far as character for guidance. It needs to be a male person who understands what things influence lying.
4. Avoid associating yourself with those you know who casually lie (even in fun), are deceitful, avoid being truthful, hide things about themselves
5. Check into support groups for behavior problems. You will have to face the truths of yourself and others. Honesty is celebrated.
6. During this probation, you will not associate on a personal level with any single, eligible female persons. You will be like a man obsessed; focused on making yourself a suitable mate for me. Think of no others; pay no attention to any females coming on to you. You are celebat in thought, word and deed.
7. And put in prayer. Prayer works wonders, if sincere and directed to ask God for His help. We are all raised to be self sufficient and self reliant, but that is the opposite of what we should be; we need to lean on God and allow Him to guide our hearts to do the right things with our decisions. He loves you and wants you to do the right things. If you want to be the best you can be, then ask God to guide you and He will.
After this re-vamping of his character and personality, after creating some new, good habits then he can re-initiate contact with you for dating. He's to explain to you what his goals were and what he has achieved. He needs to ask you to give him another chance, a 90 day "probationary" period, and if he slips just ONCE, then you can move on and he's to NEVER contact you again.
It's harsh, but he put into motion several negative incidents that tarnished his character and damaged your relationship with him. He'll have to tow the line for the rest of your relationship. He's to swear in his heart to never show disrespect toward you again; never to lose your trust in him again. He needs to get on bended knee if that is what it takes! You need assurance that THIS TIME he will not fail you.
I put all of this in very strict, harsh terms. Modify as per need.
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2007-03-22 12:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nodon't snap at him don't hang up the phone or any thing like that tell him that what he did was not cool and it really bothered u alot and u calling me like you've done nothing to me u know stuff like that just don't yell it at him just say it calm because trust me it'll make u feel better about it because far as i can see it is that ur still hurt and u trying to get back at himfor hurting u its ok to cry its ok to let it out but u gotta make sure u let it out the right way because if u talk to him calm and tell him how u fell it will give him something to think about trust me girl i've been through it.
2007-03-22 12:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he your ex two months ago when he cheated on you? Then it wasn't "cheating" if you weren't together. If you really want him to be sorry he cheated on you, make sure he knows that you've moved on to greener pastures. Have a full life, the best revenge is living well and being happy without him.
2007-03-22 12:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i had a situation still do like that. what your finding yourself doing is repeating it over and over.i told him to lose my # but no. you know what i do. I bring it up every time he wants to talk until he gets tired of it. then he'll leave you alone. and try this saying that you find someone even if they dint exist and tell him that you moved on and rub in how happy you are.
2007-03-22 12:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ryah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to play games?
Stop answering his calls and talking to him at all. That is the best revenge.
2007-03-22 12:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me, I fell for his charm and begging, I'm heartbroken again. I let that boy break my heart 3 times and I regret it every single day, girl please don't date him again, heartbreak hurts to much.
2007-03-22 12:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♫♪♫TAY-LUR♫♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer any of his calls.
It's pointless to try to make him feel sorry. Just move on.
2007-03-22 12:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheat on him then tell him that pay back is hell or go out with other guy and tell him the same thing
2007-03-22 12:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to his house start making out with him get him all aroused and then tell him that you have to go. and then never talk to him again. you gotta be looking fly when you do it though.
2007-03-22 12:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels sorry
2007-03-22 12:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Talis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋