My mom passed away 5 years ago and?

Question

im finding that it doesent get easier it gets harder, anyone else feel this way?

Answer 1

I lost my fiancee Jan 2005. I was devastated...could not understand why... He was killed in a snomobile accident. I since have a new relationship. I have days that I just cry because I lost a wonderful man. Reality is that we all have to die. My opinion is that we are here to learn. No matter what path is chosen we will all end up in the same place. You need to accept that the person is gone, however you can miss and love that person forever. Our loved ones that are gone are having a wonderful time enjoying being where they belong. Yes, I believe they come to us in our dreams, visit us, and even do strange things to let us know they are by our side watching and still loving us. I beleive they too are waiting to be with us again. When you are down just as I do, talk to your loved one...let them know what you have to say...I believe they do listen. I beleive to us it is forever but to them it is like a second than we will be back with them. No, I am not religious...I jsut did a lot of searching and reading when my fiancee passed. This is my personal conclusion. I sure hope this helps you. Time does not make it go away....but it does lessen more. That is just a part of life. Good luck to you.LL

Answer 2

My dad passed away a few years back. It was very difficult in the beginning. I boycotted all the holidays. I went through the entire grieving stages, and eventually reached a point where I was just numb and was just going through the motions. The only thing that made me better was by actually talking about him and the wonderful things we used to do together. I tried to find happiness through my memories which in turn brought happiness to my heart. Realizing that I will always have the memories and nothing can take that away from me which I interpret as having him with me always. Whether it makes sense to you or not, I don't know, but it's my logic and it's the only thing that helped me. Time has healed the wounds I just had to hang in there. Don't get me wrong, I get a little nostalgic during certain holidays, but atleast I celebrate them now. I know in my heart and mind that he is no longer in pain. He is at peace and that makes me happy even though I sometimes wish he was here to give me a big hug and kiss. But that is life as I have come to realize. One life ends and another begins. When it is our time, it's just our time. I wish you the best. My thoughts are with you. Just hang in there. Remember, some people take a very long time to grieve. There's no set time limit for the grieving process. I hope I helped a bit. If you feel like it's too taxing on you, you may want to talk to a grieving counselor or a priest, if you are religious, or even a friend or family member.

Answer 3

I lost a friend on February 27th 2007. But it wasnt just him, it was him and his younger brother, his older sister, the older sisters best friend, and the younger brothers best friend. All of them were between the ages of 12-15. Their car crashed into a pond when it slid on the ice. They were on road that wasnt driven on a lot in the morning. So no one saw there car until about an hour later. It took a dive team to get them out. They tried to save them but they all died. It was the first time that I have lost someone that I knew. For me it gets hard, then it gets easier, then hard again. I really hope it gets better for you. Best wishes

Answer 4

I found that missing my parents has gotten any easier, I've just learned to live with it. I've gone through a couple things, since my parents passed away, that I really wanted my parents to lean on. And it certainly didn't get easier. Unfortunately it is something we need to learn to live with it.

You are not alone in these feelings.

Answer 5

My mom died when I was 8 I am now 15 and yes it will just keep getting harder. I still am grieving over it. I'm not sure what advice I can give you because the same damn thing is happening to me too. (Pardon my language)

Answer 6

my dad just pass so i understand every1 i love dies and i'm only 16 i get over it.....but if it happens again then i dunno what i'd do.my adivce is every1 has hard times but no matter how long it takes u will find a way 2 live ur life like u use 2 and even though ur moms not their u know she's in a better place and she would want u 2 b happy

Answer 7

Some times we go threw hard times and missing a parent who is gone doesnt help. I lost my dad and I do miss him, but I have a strong belief in life after death, that is the only thing that keeps me going. I know I will see him again.....

Dont be afraid, only believe.

Answer 8

Yes my mom died 2 years ago. There are alot of times where I miss just having her to talk to.

Answer 9

well i cant really see were your coming from but when my great grandfather died nobody told me and wene i went to see him in the hospital he wasnt there and i just broke down and every time he comes up it gets harder not to cry so in that way i can see were your coming from anyway sorry about your mom

Answer 10

my dad passed 2001.....it does and will get easier...I will always miss him....once I was at a store or where ever and someone pass me by wearing a cologne he used to wear ...I turned to see who it was.... then it starts to bring memories back....