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Last Night At About 2:45 Am, My Mother Passed Away. I Am In Total Disbelive, I Want Revenge And Total Destruction..

I Feel Like I Have Nobody, I Miss Her So Much, I Havent Cried And I Dont Know Why, But I Feel Anger Boiling In My Soul I Want Answers And My Mom Back, Why Cant I Cry Why Am I So Angry?

Answer 1

Unlike you I have not felt the same emotions that you have because I did not lose my mother I lost my Husband 6 months ago, and I do know that anger is normal. I was angry for weeks because it was easier to be angry then it was to grieve. If I grieved it just meant that I had accepted his death, and I was not ready to do that.

It takes time and everyone grieves differently. I am sorry for your loss and I won't say it will get better, you can never get over the loss of a loved one, but it does get easier.

Answer 2

I wish that there were some magic words to say that would make you feel better. You have suffered a tragic loss and my heart goes out to you. I agree with the other answers that address the fact that you are in shock and have not yet accepted the reality of her death. It is not an easy thing, in fact it is one of the most difficult things to go through. It is a process which you will discover,don't be hard on yourself. It sounds like you loved you mother very much,I am sure she knows that. Would she want you to take revenge or create destruction? I doubt it. You can't get her back but you can still talk to her and when the confusion slows down then you may want to start to remember the good times, maybe with a friend who you feel safe sharing with. God bless you in your grief. I am so very sorry,I lost my mother when I was 20 years old, I am now 50,it still hurts but not all the time like when it happened. Don't give up and remember how she raised you. You will be able to be happy again, I promise.

Answer 3

My mom that raised me died when I was 17. I flipped out. I was angry at the whole world. Eventually, and it did take a long time, I calmed down. Then I started with the panic attacks, and the total disbelief. Grieving is different for everyone. Let yourself run through the steps of grief and DO NOT rush yourself.
I really feel for you. Best of luck.

Answer 4

You need to get some grief counseling in the worse way. I know your feelings. I lost my Mom and Dad within 6 weeks of each other and my only daughter and granddaughter in an auto accident the same year. So I know you can get through this with some help from grief counseling. Good luck.

Answer 5

Anger is a totally normal reaction to grief. You are still in shock and your mind is dealing with this by turning your pain into anger. The anger will pass. You will be able to cry. Just wait for the shock to wear off and take it slowly.... one day at a time. Be gentle with yourself. We can't rush through grief.

Answer 6

Sorry for your loss.

But here's the deal: You're being selfish.

God has a plan and it's not our place to question why. We can morn, we can cry and we can be angry.

Or we can be happy the time spent with one another is sacred to no one else but whom we share that time with.

Treasure it, keep it pleasant and keep it pure.

Feel blessed, feel sad, feel discouraged - This is life.

Answer 7

Calm yourself down before you kill someone with your bare hands. Maybe the reason why you have not cried yet is because you have not accepted your mother death yet. May God be with you. Watch over you at all times. I am so sorry for your lost.

Answer 8

No, I'm an answer who wants persons.

Answer 9

From my own personal experience......You will go through every emotion there is . Anger, hate, grief, tears, the tears will come, right now you are dealing with it with anger. I am sorry for your loss, I truly understand.

Answer 10

sorry to hear about your mom,sounds like typical reaction as long as you don't follow thru on your revenge and destruction your emotions will come out after you accept your moms death