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Weve been dating since December. He insisted on moving in after his roomate kicked him out. I didnt want him to, i said wed end up being friends. Since hes been here i saw condoms in his see-through travel bag...he didnt use them but it bothered me...i got over it...he doesnt come home until 10...he said he is "single" and has fun meeting people, whatever that means...he said "its not what he thought" "he is disappointed in me, etc." This weekend i ended up getting drunk and cried. He ignored me for two days. He is talking more now. I think he just wants to be friends. Before he was so into me and affectionate. Its just been lost. He left a note on his dresser where he lists all the things ive done wrong. He says he missed me when he was in Mexico over the holidays. Can we get back together? You can read the note in my other posts. This situation is driving me crazy. How can i break it off and kick him out in the most humane and nice way possible?

2007-03-22 12:18:08 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

21 answers

What a cheek this guy has, he gets thrown out by his room mate [well, we can only guess why can't we boys & girls]? he then pushes himself on you & basically moves in without an invitation. You've known him since December & it's not even the end of March now.....waaaaaay too early to be moving in anyway, I'm sorry to say Honey, but he was only looking for a convenient place to stay anyhow.
You can decide whether you wish for him to stay in your home as just a room mate [which I feel you'll live to regret] or ask him to leave.
He has no legal rights to your property & you do not have to move out if he refuses to go.
Unfortunately though he's a guy & you're a girl & a kind hearted maybe too soft girl at that, Somehow I get the feeling this pig will try to exploit that kindness, even to the point of bullying you if need be. Is there not someone that could be at your home when you ask him to leave, like a couple of big burly brothers or guy friends?........

Stick to your guns sweetheart, trust me you want him out & you want him out as soon as possible.

He has no legal rights to continue living in your home as you haven't I assume taken out some sort of binding contract with him.....as with a landlord & tenant......I wouldn't put up with him for one minute longer than I had to, contract or not I'm afraid.....

But then again, I have 3 big burly men that I gave birth to & they'd soon sort the situation out, Don't try to handle this situation alone honey unless you're confident you can,

I wish I was your neighbour, I'd get my sons round there to give you some moral support....Please let us know how you got on.
((hugs)) KB. x

2007-03-22 12:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0 0

have you ever heard of being used? you must be pretty desperate for some wiener. to put up with that crap is a sign of a girl that thinks she can do no better. as long as he sees talk from you and no action, he will still play you. you say he didn't use the condoms so he dipped it in the other gals and then came and dipped it in you. you should have hoped he did use them. he didn't want to spoil the moment by applying a condom. why did you cry. you have known the situation all along, it was no surprise. when someone doesn't talk to you that is emotional abuse. you are being abused and don't even know it. he is invalidating your feelings. leave him a note on his dresser saying he is right, you have done some wrong things and you are gonna start new by doing some things right, like kicking him out. there are plenty of wieners out there and all you gotta do is wiggle that little money maker and you will have some new stuff. time to stop the insanity.

2007-03-22 12:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

He moved in too fast. You were NOT firm enough that you didn't wish him to. He is not to be trusted, but then, were I you, I'd examine my own judgment on such matters real seriously before allowing a guy to move in SO FAST!

WHY do you ALREADY want to get back together? Give yourselves some space...living together in a committed relationship is SERIOUS.

You breakoff a relationship by being honest BUT gentle and you give him a deadline to move out, considering the term of your relationship, I'd say about 72 hours max. If he goes ballistic, you get the he** out of there and call the police. HOW WELL DO YOU REALLY KNOW THIS GUY AFTER LESS THAN 3 MONTHS?

NOT WELL ENOUGH TO PUT YOUR LIFE AND LIMB IN DANGER BY THINGS YOU MAY NOT EVEN KNOW ABOUT THE GUY...

Time to end this nonsense!

Grace

2007-03-22 12:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1 0

Just tell him that it isn't working out and you need some time apart. Moving in together can either make or break a relationship. I guess in this case it broke it. Better to find out now than get married and find out. He will probably be upset but give him a week to find a new place to live and move on with your life. Good luck, lesson learned.

2007-03-22 12:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0 0

Tell him that you do not think that the relationship is going to work out and that you think that he should move out. Just start by saying "i think we need to talk about our relationship" if he asks why you are breaking it off with him then you can just tell him that you have both changed and aren't compatible anymore. Also let him know that you still want to be friends and communicate, you just don't think that it is a good idea to be living together anymore

2007-03-22 12:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by blahblah 1 · 0 0

make him leave with u having to make him.
tell him that you cant b with him, and its killing u that he would b so awful as to make a list of things u do wrong, and ask him how he only seems to b able to c the bad in u. tell him that you cant have people that put u down living with u, and that if he cared about u at all he would leave u in peace and stop torturing u. tell him that if he ever cared about u, and that if he wasn't just using u, he would leave and let u be. if he was a really man, he would have to courage to b a man and leave.

this way, if he stays hes basically saying hes a piece of sh*t and that he hates u.
he has to leave if he wants to feel human, b/c everytime he sees u hes gonna remember wat he did to u.

this will get the job done, tell him how u feel, and its nice- b/c ur not actually telling him u dont like him, ur saying he hurt u and he doesn't like u. all good

2007-03-22 12:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0 0

First, i might prefer to declare, you do not prefer him. you will possibly prefer him yet you do not prefer him. From my information, you're a youthful teenager and that's one in each of your first relationship. I agree that that is rude for him to grin and say "i'm dumping you" and due to this why you will possibly be able to desire to flow on. think of roughly it, if he can do it smiling, he under no circumstances enjoyed you and in case you probably did ultimately come back jointly, you will probable get harm back. My suggestion is which you will possibly desire to flow on, flow out with your woman pals, flow to the videos, flow procuring, and do what a common teenager do. Throw each little thing of his away or conceal it in a container so which you will not verify out it anymore. the ingredient is, flow on and have relaxing. there's a large style of extra beneficiant men obtainable and use this as a getting to understand adventure. solid luck.

2016-10-19 09:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Just tell him after all the things you guys have been going through the relationship is so devastated and unless you guys arrange some 360 degrees changes in your relationship anything's gonna work. Tell him you love him and you think he is special for you, but he needs to help you out in order to have good results and stop suffering. :) Smile if you can, that will soften the situation. Good luck girl :D

2007-03-22 12:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 0 1

It sounds to me like he is taking advantage of you, and that he is very negative towards you. I would tell him, nicely, that I was not interested in a relationship, and ask him to leave your place. One word of caution, try not to be alone when you talk to him, it will keep things much more civil if someone else is home, or you have a friend there for support.
Good luck, but be strong and ditch him.

2007-03-22 12:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 1 0

You ought to tell him that its too bad he's so disappointed in you....because, you're the one with a place to live...and remember that. As far as the condom goes....if it smells like chit...then it is chit....kick his azz out...and in a few months when he finally reveals to you just how dirty he is and all the bad things hes done to get revenge on u for throwing him out.....you will be able to look back and say ....Im so glad I through ur azz out in the streets....now go ask ur smut to let u live with her....

2007-03-22 12:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by marie 3 · 1 0

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