how can you discipline children, and make sure you follow through when you have other children.?

Question

i find it very hared to keep o what i have said to them and if one is naughty then i think it is unfair to punish them all

Answer 1

well, when it comes to discipline, b/c each child is different, each much be treated differently...if all the children are doing the same exact bad thing, then they should get the same punishment...

basically, if they're doing something bad, decide whether it merits a spanking or time-out and then just make sure you follow through...

if you can't keep track, then either you're too busy or you have too many kids...

Answer 2

I am in the process of completing a parenting class, that specialize with ages 2-8 years old. I really recommend that you read this book The Incredible Years. It has really changed my perspective on parenting. This was a ? that someone else asked in class last night.
You give a warning to your kids/kid, once you've warned them (or that child), then you must proceed to take away privileges/time out. (There are certain times to use time-out). The book explains it in detail. If the behavior continues then, the consequence should be set for more time. When & if the desired behavior occurs you must immediately praise the desired behavior. I.E...."Thank you for sharing so nicely." The main idea is to focus MORE on the good behaviors than on the bad ones. You will be surprised! To answer your question, remember this "they will tug on those strings", which usually is why we don't follow through. Follow through 100% and your requests will be honored the next few times. They are so used to you bending that your word is not really taken seriously, so it may take some time until you see the change. STICK TO YOUR GUNS! It is unfair to punish them all.

Answer 3

Well it is deffenitly unfair to punish them all if they haven't done anything wrong, and I would think it would only serve to make them angry at you and their sibling. Not creatign a family who gets along well.

It would depend on the punishment. Example saying "no tv" in a large household doesn't work unless you are going to keep the one child out of every room with a tv which can be hard to do. but keeping them in their room for a period of time isn't as hard (now this depends on their age)

The best thing is try to make the punishment directly related to the problem. If the child thew a toy at another sibling for example tell him if he can't play nice with his siblings he won't be allowed to be around them, and don't let him play in family game night. Or take the toy away and later he must do something nice for that sibling like clean up their room, wash their clothing. (don't make it a fun thing like baking a cake, that should be saved for when they are being good)

If they share a room and you put the child in there for time out explain to the other children why they are not allowed in the room nicely and try to make it special for them to not be in there "you can do your homework at the dinning room table and can have a snack too," or they can all watch a special movie while thier sibling waits in the room, this will make it even more of a punishment for the child to not be able to participate in the family activity.

You can also try added chores. They have to fold the laundry or vacume the house.

Also this is a good book with lots of ideas:
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too - Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

Answer 4

first children are not naughty they do naughty things, i do not understand are you saying you punish them all when one does something wrong? I have 5 kids, they each have to take responsibility for themselves, i only punish the one who needs it, i have five children, that was my choice, it takes time to work out how to manage, but you must stay on top of things and punishing consistently is number one or the kids would take control, i know it can be difficult but if you do not make yourself follow through, things can only get worst

Answer 5

You need to come up with a punishment appropriate for the one that's in the wrong. And then you need to FOLLOW THROUGH....because they learn the first time you're full of it if you don't.

Answer 6

you shouldn't punish all when one was in the wrong this is what i do. With my little girls that are 3 and four i put them in time out for 3 minutes for the 3 yr old and four minutes for the 4 yr old. and then i get down to eye level and explain what they did wrong and then tell them why it was wrong. and with my seven yr old if it was extremely wrong i ground him from playing outside and watching TV. When everyone else is watching TV he has to go to his room. you just have to be consistent.

Answer 7

Be firm & you must follow through with the punishment.

Answer 8

DEAR
YES YOU DO THE SAME TO ALL AND NOT JUST ONE OF THEM OK
TAKE CARE

Answer 9

you question is unclear to me sorry