okay, my cousin was going out with this guy 3 years older than us and were just 13, her mom didn't like it so she told her she couldn't talk talk to him or even see him. than my uncle catches her and this guy sneaking out of her house. her mom takes her to the police and if either of them talk to each other than they go to jail or something like that... than i catch her talking to him in school when i confront her she begs me not to tell.. my mom thinks that something is wrong so she keeps nagging me and finally i tell her... she tells my dad who calls his dad who tells my cuz that she needs to tell her mom herself. now she won't talk to me and on April 1st, we are getting confirmed together and i want everything to be cleared up by that time and i don't know what to do. I need help!!
2007-03-22 12:01:15 · 12 answers · asked by mascot336 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U need 2 talk 2 ur cuz about it. Tell her how u feel and all the pressure she's putting on u 2 keep it a secret. Let her kno that u care about her, and u don't want her doing anything she'll regret. If u don't talk it out soon, things will get bitter, so make sure u tell her how u feel.
2007-03-22 12:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by angelfire22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your mom and ask her what is going on, that your cousin can't speak to this guy, and why would they go to jail if she does. Perhaps if you tell her just what you told us about wanting things to be right for when you are confirmed, she can help.
2007-03-22 19:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents pushed you and in the end you're not wrong for saying anything. Your cousin is just upset because her parents are obviously pretty strict regarding her newfound puppy love.
give her a couple days to cool off. then try and just chat with her and explain that you didn't just go and "tattle." Maybe even suggest you guys goin out to a movie or the mall just to get out and spend time.
you guys are obviously close cousins, this will pass. just try not to push this subject too much, the problem is between her and her parents.
2007-03-22 19:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Critter Rocks 1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol your cousins mom is crazy. yeah this guy is prob too old to be with her bc guys that age normally only want one thing. they arent mature to even think about a real realtionship yet. BUT she shouldnt be putting restraining orders on the kids. mannn.
but i think the best thing you can do is talk to her. tell her your side of the story and see if she will listen. dont be mean in anyway, just let her say what she wants to you to get it out and hopefully all will eventually be forgiven. good luck!
2007-03-22 19:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest simply explaining to her why you disclosed her secret to your mother. There is no dishonour in being honest, and you shouldn't feel bad for having told the truth. Lying to your parents is rarely a good idea, because they are your elders, and care more about you than anyone else. Your parents have a great deal more real world experience than you, and ought to be trusted unless they have proven themselves to be untrustworthy.
If your cousin doesn't understand why her parents have forbidden this relationship, perhaps she'd be better off discussing it with them, rather than simply acting against their wishes. Having said that, I see no shame in what you've done, so explaining yourself should be sufficient.
Be true to yourself, and you'll have a great abundance of positive relationships.
2007-03-22 19:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by taotedan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug. And i'm sure that she'll go to jail if she talks to this guy for sneaking out of the house. And sloooow dooown. "she tells my dad who calls his dad who tells my cuz that she needs to tell her mom herself." anyone get this?
2007-03-22 19:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it was for her own good!! maby it would be okay when they are older but not now!! at this time its a bad idea. The guy has diffrent things on his mind then ur cuz. ( if u know wat i mean). Tell her that it wasnt ur fualt. Someone would find out one way or the other....does she think she can hide it for ever. plus its not like they are going to get married i mean shes only 13!!! Shell find someone else its only puppy love!! TEll her it was for the best ..
2007-03-22 19:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lifetime!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm...not much you can do now expect tell her that you told on her for her own good...so she won't get into trouble with the guy...the guy is older and may want more serious stuff...it's good that you are keeping her away from him until she gets older...don't worry...she'll forgive you it's only a matter of time...be nice to her and tell her that you feel so bad without her friendship
2007-03-22 19:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Melina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing girl. when you are younger guys will use you, and try to see how far they can go. Keep looking out for your cousin and one day she will thank you.
2007-03-22 19:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by playtowinjas1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you talk to her and tell her how you did it for her own good she might get over it, and I bet you a year from now you guys wont remember you ever fought!
2007-03-22 19:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋