if u give up ur rights totally to see ur son or daughter because do u have to pay child support?

Question

confrontations constantly with my ex no matter how nice i am

Answer 1

It depends on county and state. Many times if you sign your rights over to someone else than you dont have to pay child support. Like if you are letting another man adopt them. Many courts will not allow a parent to sign over rights without another person picking those rights up - or else many people would do it just to avoid paying support

Now that I answered your question I have to get on my soap box with this one: Dont let the way your childrens mother acts make you give up your rights. I know its hard to deal with someone that keeps being a b**** no matter what you do.. but its not about you and her - its about you and the kids. Dont let your kids suffer because your ex doesnt know that keeping a good relationship with each other is healthy for your children. I garantee that later on down the road you will regret giving up your rights and want to know your children but by then who knows what opinions they will have formed about you and what you did. Dont just think about the right now - think about the future as well. If you do decide to give up your rights - then make sure you are doing it for the kids. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I don't think many judges would allow non-custodial parentsthis cop out. Otherwise, I can imagine a lot more deadbeat parents.

I think once it has been determined that you must pay child support, you can't cheat your way out of it by trying to absolve parentage.

On the other side though, if you are the custodial parent and you don't want the child-support paying parent in your child's life, you can sue to have them declared an unfit parent and then they would be out of your life...but that doesn't mean you would lose the child support necessarily.

Unless the non-custodial parent is causing a danger, or is neglecting the child, most judges won't have a good reason to declare them unfit. It's a tough situation.

Answer 3

If you relinquish parental rights you don't have to pay child support because you are removing yourself as legal parent. But, the court may not allow you to do that. Usually people only relinquish their rights when the child is to be adopted. But even if your ex is a royal pain in the butt, your children need you and will suffer if you abandon them. If necessary, get a better lawyer.

Answer 4

If you want rights, fight for them, the ONLY way to do it is in court.

But if you're not paying the child support, then there is a special place in Hades for you. Children need the support of BOTH parents. If you are not supporting your child, you will be in for a rude awakening when you find that the courts aren't willing to let you have any rights. Courts see unpaid child support as being equal to abandonment. People who abandon their kids are easily proven unfit.

Answer 5

Yes u still have to pay child support, but why in the hell would u want to give up rights to your child because the mother is being silly, that's just dumb as hell on your part because what if you want to see your child down the line, the child will resent you and may not want anything to do with you!!!!

Try petitioning for joint custody instead that way you can have the child with you half the time and will only have to deal with her about 5% of the time!

Answer 6

i'm suggestion perchance you're able to make an affiliation with the father devoid of moving into the process the evil court equipment. If the two one in each of you're on good words, it may be ultimate to furnish the baby to the father and make a small affiliation with him to help month-to-month. notwithstanding if that is 40 dollars a month or some thing. Adoption is the worst concern. Do you have a family participants member that ought to take the baby?

Answer 7

Yes, unless you sign away your rights to the children legally, you are obligated to them. This may include child support, as it seems to in your case.

Signing away your rights is usually done when a parent has abandoned the child, and a step-parent wishes to adopt the child.

Your best route is to fight for your visitation with your children, because you love them, and are helping take care of them anyway. Good luck to you. I'm sorry to hear it's so hard to deal with the mother.

Answer 8

Just because you give up your rights to the baby, does not mean that you don't have to pay. Take him to court and get a support order.

Answer 9

then have a 'no contact' order and a place for pick up/drop off of the child(ren) court ordered.

no more arguements.

the courts will tell ya that too.

todays courts do not allow a parent to just sign away their rights, unless there is someone willing to adopt the child (such as a new spouse).

in other words, even if you signed your visitation rights over, the child support would continue.

DEADBEATS
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CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
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ABANDONMENT (NO SHOW PARENTS)
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NOT ALL PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
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http://www.divorcesource.com/
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http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
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http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
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http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
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http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
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http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

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Answer 10

yes you do, work it out in court, don't give up your visitation, it will hurt your child, there are ways you can work it out where you do not have to see your ex, the courts can have a third party drop off and pick up