Im 21y and i never had a boyfriend. its not that im ugly or something! Actualy im sweet and ppl tell me im pretty, but when some guy come and talk to me then i just step out and say no and after that i feel guilty because some of them are really cute.
and now i feel so unsecure because i never had a byf and i turning off guys just because of that(i feel shame and worry what they gonna think about that).
2007-03-22 11:49:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go looking for guys. Trust me, if you're looking for them, you're going to find some crappy guys. You don't want that.
Personally, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I can understand why you're unsecure, but maybe you just need to wait for the right guy. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't rush, wait for your Nemo.
I hope this helps.
nicole
2007-03-22 11:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear Young Lady, you have been either sheltered all your life by strict parents or you have been hitting the books or working at the family business. Your upbringing and cultural background may come into play here. If you are being admired by many young men I find that very complimentary. It could be very frightening at first if you dont know who's for real and who only wants one thing. They probably know how you are and many of them are betting on who can be the first to be with you. Let them communicate with you. Ask them why they want to talk to you when there are so many other girls they can hit on. What is their true motive and intentions. Do they want to be friends or lovers. Do they all want a one night stand or a committment. Dont judge a book by its cover. Look into their eyes and listen closely to the sincerity of their voice. Ask questions about the guys who want to talk to you and only converse with them through emails. The written word is very powerful and can show how one flows with the coordination of whats in the mind and the heart at the same time. If you can feel the words written on paper. Compare the written to the spoken word. If both compare and he is saying exactly what he has written ask him questions about what he means. Look at his eyes if they wander and look confused then he is trying to search for the right words to say and you have exposed his true intentions. I hope I have been of any help to you. Papa Hank. my email is papa_hanko@yahoo.com
2007-03-22 19:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by papa_hanko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are painfully shy, it sounds like you should start by hanging around guys in groups with your female friends there too. If you find a guy that is interested, then you should try a double date with a friend so that you feel more comfortable. Hanging around any guys to start will help, even if you are not interested, just to get used to being around them.
2007-03-22 18:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u should lose that feeling and go with the guy u think is the best i would and then if i doesn't workout them try and solve it or breakup with um cut loose take it from a younger persons point of view ;)
2007-03-22 18:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by XxEnvy_is_EverythingxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to them and get to know the guys. You could even end up finding a soulmate by starting a friendly conversation. Hope I helped
2007-03-22 18:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by kyyrraaa :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-22 19:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just not ready to have a boyfriend or your a little insucre try to get to know a guy and be friends with them first dont worry you know to say yes when the right guy comes along
2007-03-22 18:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by luckybuny07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your point of worry is what men will think about you because you have not let them jump into your panties, then, you don't have any problem at all.
What you have unspoilt is priceless so, keep it intact for your husband who will come around very soon.
2007-03-22 18:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by comradechris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never had a girlfriend(but i'm 15)so i know how you feel, just when a guy comes up to you, just count to ten in your head and be calm about it. eventually, you will get over the fear of never having a bf and then you will get one
2007-03-22 18:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Maximus prime3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same problem but mine is less serious. girl if you don't start talking to guys and going out with guys( on a date) then you are going to be alone and scared for the rest of your life.
2007-03-22 18:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by C.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋