2007-03-22 11:42:05 · 18 answers · asked by mrsbattlecat 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I laugh at them AND the women who start them.
100% of the time, it's the women who start rumours like that who are either cheating themselves or their husbands are cheating on them.
Every single senior NCO and officer who didn't have to share a room with someone else had rumours started about them.
It's just another example of how cruel military wives can be to one another. It's pathetic.
2007-03-23 08:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by fredonia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turn a deaf ear. Yes it hurts it's going to just because it was said but you can't do anything about it right now. Wait till he gets home and things calm down. Everyone is stressed and upset and wives take it out on each other. Once the rumors get started everyone is going to make sure it's said of everyone's husband so it's not just there's doing it. Only a few of them have any truth and the one's with truth those wives typicaly know because their husbands are like that or they have an open marriage anyway. Try to hang in there and don't listen or pass on the hateful things that go around frg's it's not worth the pain, heartache or worry.
2007-03-22 19:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by bonnieblue716 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an Army wife, but my brother is currently serving in Iraq and he has a wife, a 3 year old son and a baby on the way here at home. He has a very secure marriage, but I think cheating suspicions are more intense for the men who leave their wives behind...
2007-03-22 18:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Leah~Ariana is due Oct. 09~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never heard a rumour of my husband cheating. But the rumours about cheating are usually true unfortunately. My experience is the spouses back home cheat more then the deployed do.
2007-03-25 04:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by HA HA HE HE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them. The ones who are scrutinizing everyone else's marriage are usually just trying to take the focus off of their marital problems. And then some wives just have nothing better to do. Who knows your husband better - you, or some other guy's wife? It would take a lot more than idle chatter at the FRG to convince me my husband was cheating on me.
I try to be active in my FRG, and you can usually tell who is going to gossip and who isn't. There are people in my FRG I'd never tell a secret to in a million years, and there are people I am great friends with. I just hang out with the people I like and ignore the rest, it's not worth the stress. I try to be nice to everyone, but I don't have to be friends with them. Deployment is stressful enough without having to deal with everyone else's crap.
2007-03-22 20:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how to keep a good relationship with my husband when he deploys. I keep those care packages goin out once a week, letters (steamy), and online always for my husband. Webcams are vital. When we get on the phone, I am allllways sure to keep that "intimate" talk going. As long as I keep that connection going, and we are both working 110%, then I am secure in knowing that I do all I can to keep him with me. And it works both ways. He has to be there for me in ways that I need, and I need to be there for him in ways he needs. Men connect through sex, women connect on an emotional level. And besides allll that, we trust each other implicitly. There is no doubt in my mind that my husband will always be faithful, as will I.
And if you dont hang out with gossiping wives, you wont hear anything anyway. So there.
2007-03-22 19:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay i am an ex army wife, basically people are kinda out of it mentally wifes not having husbands and husbands in a war! But alot of times it is mixed up names, a soldier will hear that tracy did it by some one who saw her in a club but really didnt see her and mistaked it as her when it was really stacy! Just let it go through one ear out the other i had to deal with it about me but really my husband was the one messing around! Hello just pay attention to you spouses reactions, if they act diff then start to worry! and besides if you cant trust your partner then why the heck you in a relationship with a soldier hello
2007-03-24 01:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by missflexgr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be an army wife you need to have a solid marriage. Seriously.
Anything less won't make it through one deployment, much less the back to back pace we live now.
I've done 2 deployments and looking at #3 in 5 years. Or less. I lost count. And I trust my husband implicitly in being faithful. And he trusts me.
Otherwise we'd not have stayed married 12 years :)
2007-03-22 19:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, think of it this way-- do you trust him? if you do not trust that he would not stay true to you, then why have you married him?
If you do trust that he HAS stayed true to you, then why are you asking this question?
Rumours are just rumours-- take them as they go. If they get terribly worrysome, then talk to him about it the next time you get. Communication is needed; and so is trust, in order to maintain a good relationship.
Good luck!!
2007-03-22 18:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not just Army wives that deal with this...
Rumors are just that...RUMORS. Unless you hear it from the horses mouth...don't believe it. Trust and communication are key during deployments.
Side note: My husband heard a rumor that I was cheating on him with this guy named Chris....my husband just laughed his *** off....Chris is my brother!!!!! People just like to start drama.
2007-03-22 18:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by twinmomm 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋