She yells horrible things when she is angry at us. Sometimes she doesn't even know the whole matter. Its a lot of cursing and name calling. Am i the only one who deals with this? How do i suppose to keep remaining christian and faithful to God if so much negative things are said daily? It makes me cry all the time even though I'm in my teen years i feel i'm not like the others. Sometimes i wish i could escape.
2007-03-22 11:40:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I had a mother like that. I wish I'd told someone I trusted what was going on, but I was so afraid of her. Please talk to a counselor at your school, or someone else you trust who can help you. I lived through years of misery with a verbally abusive mother...you don't have to. Please get help.
2007-03-22 11:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said your mom is so cruel "sometimes". Is she sometimes the sweetest mother you'd ever want to have?
My mother is bi-polar and would be the sweetest, kindest mother and the envy of the entire community but 'sometimes' she would curse, break things, blame people and go to bed saying I gave her a head ache and she sometimes would take me to get the "devil" taken out of me. She would cry for weeks on end and life was awful. Full of guilt trips, anger and name calling.
Then she would rebound and the world was wonderful again. Could it be that your mother is bi-polar? If this is the case at least let me be the first to begin to reassure you that you are okay and it isn't your fault. You're not alone. Find other kids in the same situation and suppport each other. Your mother has a chemical imbalance.
2007-03-22 19:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad situation you are in. Sometimes, people who always seem angry need to get help in controlling their anger. Sometimes this is biological imbalance in the brain that needs to be addressed. Other times the person just does not know how to deal with stress and so it comes out as anger and yelling.
Find someone you can confide in who can help you and your mother. A close friend or family member may be the best, possibly a pastor from your church can help. Is your mom a single mom? Oftentimes, the stresses of being a single parent really weigh down on a person.
Be patient with your mom and realize that she is not perfect any more than anyone else is. Stay close to God and pray for help as you look for ways to help your mom. God loves you both, place your faith in him and he will help you.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-22 18:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with a mom like that too, you just have to make it through and try to tune her out.
Close your door and turn up the music, or get good headphones.
Sometimes even buying a book on tape or CD and listening to it on headphones will help drown out the noise in the backround.....Suggest to your siblings to do the same.
Try to get out of your house and go over friends house or get involved with after school activities that keep you out of the house for as long as possible.
I know what you are going through, and believe me it ends....eventually, she may mellow in her age and you will move out.
2007-03-22 18:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better question would be Why does my mother curse and name call us?
Do you and your siblings give her a reason?
Not doing your share of housework or at least keep your rooms neat and tidy is a legitimate reason for your mother to lose her cool, as well as getting mixed in bad company, doing illegal things (including ingesting toxic substances)
and neglecting your schoolwork also qualify.
2007-03-22 20:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, Mom probably has things on her mind that are making her pop her top... have compassion for whatever it is, maybe even talk to her if you can, and cultivate peace and calm in your own mind. If your behaviors aren't such that you're causing her to pop her top, then you know there's not a darn thing to sweat about. Breathe, let go. Create your own pocket of positivity in whatever way works best for you, and stick to it. NOBODY CAN CHANGE YOUR MIND IF YOU DON'T LET THEM (emphasis, not shouting).
Hang in there kiddo... you can survive if you let yourself do so.
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2007-03-22 18:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by vinslave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through the same thing myself. Plan a future for yourself and get out when you are 18. Life is so much different when you are an adult.
2007-03-22 18:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by ms.m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋