when i start something with a guy and i start to fall for him i usually dump the guy or start something outta nothing because im afraid that hell dump me first...what should i do?
2007-03-22 11:22:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, now that you have established the fact that you have a problem, work on fixing it. You have a fear of being dumped. So, instead of waiting for that to happen, you cut them loose first.
If relationships were easy, this forum wouldn't exist. They take time & effort on both sides. You, from what I can tell, bail when it gets tough or when you think it might be getting tough. Seems that you need to put a little more effort behind staying together rather than make up an excuse for you to let him go.
Granted, if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. But how will you ever find out if all you do is show them the door? Stick it out once in a while, some of them may surprise you.
2007-03-22 11:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by jtrevoxen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You find a reason to dump the guy so that he won't dump you first. You have to understand that all relationships are temporary. You will have many friends and boyfriends in life. The time of those relationships may be very short or last a long time. Trust that through it all, you will be okay. Trust yourself that you will always stay strong and true to yourself. Then, it doesn't matter what other people say and do to you. You are your own constant strength. Never doubt that.
2007-03-22 11:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the jump- its best to have loved that to have never loved at all- If you get hurt- then you will hurt. Take a couple of sulk days and move on. Its tough but worth it in the end. Love is something no one should never experience. Be vulnerable no matter how hard it is. Oh and I used to be the same way. The first let down hurt, but I don't regret a thing. You learn and the next relationship will be that much better. Good Luck
2007-03-22 11:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Katie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are afraid of getting hurt. You need to understand why you do this or you will never have a relationship. Be open and honest with your feelings. If the relationship works it works if not it won't but your not even giving it a try to see if he has feelings for you too.
2007-03-22 11:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Have you been majorly hurt? Its called baggage and somehow you have to figure out how to let it go. If you don't take a chance you'll never end up in a relationship - right? so isn't it worth that chance that you might be dumped?
2007-03-22 11:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by stepss1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your confidence and trust in order. You will never be happy if you don't. open up and take the chance.
It is the only way you will know and the only way you will find true love ...'hurting guys all the time is not cool for you or the guys .. You will get a bad name from hurting so many.. '
2007-03-22 11:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the irony is that you'll keep getting hurt out of not wanting to get hurt.
the trick is to find a guy you can open up to.
don't be scared to actually give love a chance.
you might get hurt along the way, but eventually, i believe you'll find happiness and trust in a relationship.
2007-03-22 11:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by *autumn*rustle* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm if he wanna dumo u then that means that he never wanted u in the first place but dont eva dump him let him dump you so later on if he wants you bak hell be apoligizing believe me it's happened yto me before!!!
2007-03-22 11:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_latina_81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll never get anywhere if you keep doing what you're doing...take the relationship as long as it's willing to go, but nice and slow so you won't freak out... it will take the fear of commitment away slowly but surely
2007-03-22 11:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by n1cyndy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like someone and they like like you why not give happiness a chance. so many things can go right don't focus your life on what can go wrong cause things will you have to keep moving on and not focus so much on negative things
2007-03-22 11:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by ladielace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋