She is only 13 months old, but everything she is asked not to do, she'll say "no" and throw some kind of fit! I do not spoil her, but it would look as if I did by the way she acts. I have been ignoring her tantrums, I mean, not paying attention to her when they happen, but the no thing... Should I ignor her when she says it? Will she say it more if I ask her not to say it? What will the point be though, when she hears us telling her "no"? Am I asking way to much out of a one year old?
2007-03-22 11:19:19 · 8 answers · asked by ErinRae 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I wouldn't worry about it. She is at the stage where she is learning to talk so when she finds a word that is easy to say she will kepp repeating it. My kids went through the no thing too. The best thing to do is pretend like you didn't hear her say it. Especially if she is saying as a response to you. If you give her any kind of attention when she says it she will keep saying because she knows it gets your attention. Try teaching her a new word that is more friendly. I acted like it hurt my feelings when my daughter said it but then she just started acting like I hurt hers to get me to do what she wants. So you have to be careful. Kids especially little girls can be very manipulative.
2007-03-22 11:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
well your child is at an age where she is discovering that she CAN say no, she didn't really think for herself before and no she sees she is her own person and wants to test her independance, so she says NO. (especially if this word is used around her a lot) and 13 months old is pretty early to expect proper behavior out of her but it is NOT to early to start her down te right path.
If you want her to be indepandent and have good self esteem when older you don't want to squash this part of her. A child and adult should be allowed to express their opinions, but in a proper manner. At the same time you don't want her to grow up rude and demanding.
She is young though, I would work on it gradually.
Start by giving her some choices in the day to make her feel more independant and in control. Let her pick out her outfit or let her choose her bed time stories
second don't ask yes or no questions unless you are willing to accept a NO answer. (don't say "do you want to go to bed now" at her bedtime when she has to go, just say "its time for bed now.")
When she asks for something or replies no to you correct her on the way to say it nicely "That isn't a nice way to talk. Say I'd rather not" or "I don't like it when you talk like that, try saing no thank you" or some other way how you would LIKE her to reply (you can't expect her to display better behvior if you don't tell her what better behavior is.)
Also try not to use "no" around her anymore as a response. Its hard but try other ways of wording it like: I don't think so, not today, after I finish this, or just leave off the NO ('You need to eat something healthy first' instead of 'no you need to eat something healthy')
If she was older (around 3 I'd say) and she was talking rude or throwing tantrums I would remove her from the area (put her in a time out room with no toys for example) and tell her she is being mean and can stay in there until she can talk nicely.
2007-03-22 19:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you - my oldest daughter was the same way. I can tell you that a spank on her butt will put an end to her saying no. Your biggest concern at this age needs to be teaching her to respect authority - her telling you no and throwing a fit is very disrespectful!! I don't think it's ever a good idea to ignore a child's wrong behavior - as a parent your job is to teach, ignoring them when they act wrong just reinforces the wrong behavior.
2007-03-22 18:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is common and normal and dont expect too much but it is time to start time outs. She is too young for you to expect her to sit in the corner till you tell her to come out, you could try but I dont think she will stay. When she does this tell her in a stern voice (dont yell) she cant do that and she must go to time out, put her in her high chair or booster chair and turn it around to face the corner. it will still take a while at her age but she will get it.
2007-03-22 19:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you're asking too much of her. You may also be telling her no too much. At 13mos, there really isn't a whole lot you can do discipline wise because of their stage of development. I have learned the hard way that at that age, you have to keep things positive.
2007-03-22 18:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she needs some sort of disipline, rather than just a stern talking-to. Try punishing her slightly like taking away toys or playtime. If it keeps up, a few smacks to the bottom wouldn't hurt any and it would assert your place as authority figure.
2007-03-22 18:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by anakinjade1 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Tie her to a chair in a corner for one hour, keep reminding her that if she keeps having a fit, she will spend more and more time in the corner.
2007-03-22 18:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
DEAR
SPANK HER LITTLE BOTTOM SHE WILL GET THE MASSAGE SENT TO HER LITTLE BRIAN OK
TAKE CARE
2007-03-22 23:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋