i know it may sound weird seeing how im only 19 but i cant help but want kids so bad! I see them all the time at work, and everywhere i go and feel so jealous of their mothers. i know its a big responsibility but i believe im ready for that. I want to have to wake up in the middle of the night constantly to see if they are ok and to check up on them, i want to have to be constantly around to take care of them, etc etc because i know all the hard work will pay off. is it ok to feel this way? am i crazy or what? serious answers only please.
2007-03-22 11:13:52 · 7 answers · asked by ice_grl_182 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well when i said i was single.. i meant not married. but ive talked to my bf about it and he says that he cant wait to have kids and we both want to wait until we're married. but i still find it hard to cope with wanting them so bad...
2007-03-22 11:43:49 · update #1
its fine to feel that way! your biological clock is just a little early. BUT i think you will regret it if you rush into it too fast, babysit or work at a day care center maybe? and then have kids when you have a husband etc. i bet you will be happier if you wait
2007-03-22 11:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by *Cole* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOOLS RUSH IN, talking from experience. Just wait awhile, you didn't mention if you had a career, how about traveling a little. Have you had the experience of living alone (no parents or boyfriend) I'm only 30yrs old I was in love got married had my first child within 1 year although I don't regret the first one, I decided to have another 5 years later and I am second guessing that decision , I am getting use to it thought. But anyway do some things for yourself, I know you are thinking " I'll take my kid(s) with me " that's fine but experience some things on your own just you. I know how you feel now, but look at your future make a decision based on what's good for you for the future. Plus you will have plenty of time for children later. Help out with a friends newborn, volunteer to babysit , it's plenty of ways to fulfill your bay lust, that's why I had the second and third one.( baby Lust). Anyway they grow , which is good and another phase in itself, but try to think long term not short term , so you won't have any regrets.
2007-03-22 19:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by doubletree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say was i was a young mum at 19 and although it was great fun it was also the hardest thing i have ever had to do in my short life, so my advice is not to rush it because now i have 3 daughters and it's total caos in my house every day, no time for sleep or going out for a coffe even, it's sounds like fun to have kids young but sometimes it's so much better to wait although i wouldn't give my kids up for anything i still wish i was able to live my life a bit first, good luck with whatever choice you choose to make
2007-03-22 20:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have kids , I mean they are a joy to have around but sending them back is the real fun! I have 3 yr old triplets and a 18 month old I have no time to myself, no friends, no money and everything i do is for them. I did not know I was having triplets so let that be a lesson to all that want kids really bad strange things happen and you will feel over worked and under paid please wait just babysit for a weekend. I know this sounded like i don't like my kids I do I just want time away from them Good luck!
2007-03-22 22:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you may try getting pregnant with someone you date (on purpose) but I advise you not to do so. Children are a huge responsibility, and a financial burden on a single person. Everything from diapers and formula to college education costs a lot and you do want to best for your baby, right? You are very young and have lots of time to have a kid, wait til you meet the right person so you baby can have two parents and be raised in a healthy enviroment.
2007-03-22 18:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound facetious but get a PUPPY. If you can deal with a puppy's demands to be fed, to be taken outside in the middle of the night, to clean up the messes and do it all without missing any work, to do it all without yelling at him/her, to do it all without counting on mom and dad or brothers and sisters to watch him, to do it all without giving up and taking him to the pound...then you might be ready to move on to the next stage, but until you have had something young and dependent don't try a baby...puppies are wonderful and I know it sounds silly, but they are a lot easier to raise and give you some basic experience. I had my kids at 21, 23, and 25 and if I had to do it all over again I would have waited until I was 30...I'm much more patient now...I've trained kids and dogs and at 21 I was as bad at training a dog as I was a kid!
2007-03-22 18:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by jumbos_mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was once like you... then I got married and had kids and miss the single life sometimes. Don't rush it. You're still a kid yourself, wether you think so or not. Having children requires more than just what you mentioned. There are other things too... Don't go rushing in!!!
2007-03-22 18:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋