All the cute boys are taken and are older than me!
2007-03-22 10:26:24 · 33 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not easy but let me tell you something..and this is 100% guaranteed. I know you are shy and dont talk to a lot of guys and feel uncomfortable around them but there are guys who are just like you, they dont talk to girls and feel uncomfortable (me) but hey sooner or later a few of them notice you..you run into some here and there and if you run into a guy like you (shy) he will like you.
I am a shy guy but see the way I am I understand shy people so if i ever meet a person like you..i will have a this really nice feeling about you cause i know you are like me, and i know even though you arent open at the moment you are someone great and someone i would like to spend more tiime with because i know i need a bit of time to completely get to know you. And trust me thats the kind of guy you want because he will be committed to you, he will be ready to wait, he will be willing to take it slow becaus thats what he is comfortable with as well.
It will take time but it will be worth it, because the guys who will accept you for who you are will be the right ones and they WILL understand you.
Player dudes might not get interested in you because they want sex and tons of girls and you probably wont be so open to them like other girls...meaning you will end up with a guy just like you and he will know exactly what to do.
Be patient and trust me you will meet a great guy.
Enjoy!
2007-03-22 11:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by mezza_12 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need cute honey. You need some self-respect and self-esteem. Would you rather have a hot boyfriend who treated you like ****? Or would you rather have a not-so-hot (but decent looks) boyfriend who treated you like a diamond in the rough?
Always be yourself. If you're shy, be shy. That's who you are. Eventually there will be someone who falls absolutely head-over-heels for you for everything that you are (faults and all). Don't ever be something you're not. And don't ever change for anyone but yourself. Be strong. If you're shy and no experience then maybe you just need some time to figure things out before you worry about a boyfriend.
2007-03-22 11:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by spicy_salsa69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me. I used to have that same problem when I was younger. I used to think that all the outgoing girls had all the great guys, and I had nobody. That all changes though. If you have a good personality to back up your shyness then you won't have a problem. Guys will come to realize this and it will eventually break you of your shyness and become a little more outgoing...maybe not all together but enough that it helps. And for the experience part...everybody has to start somewhere...just remember that the guy that you end up with had no experience at one time too.
2007-03-22 11:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by bunnie17479 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself.
I dont know how old you are but if your kinda young
being shy is totally natural
and you'll get away from that and all the guys will flock to you
seriously..
but if your not really young
than try having your friends around you while your talking to a cute guy.
they will keep you relaxed and help you start a good convo with him.
"thank God for best friends right?"
You have to start somewhere.
good luck hun<3
2007-03-22 10:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suggest you take up some hobby activity that you would like to share with someone else. Someone is bound to notice you for who you are. It's one of the best things to do in meeting someone because you have something in common.
I also think that you should go at your own pace. Do not let your inexperience be a factor for rushing into things. The best thing about shy women is that the guy who manages to gain their affection is one of the luckiest people. From what I know, shy girls are really cautious and don't open themselves up for everyone to know. You know?
Best wishes
2007-03-22 10:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey i'm in the same boat as you are. I am very shy but i do have a couple of guy friends ( who are all not worth it). I have never been in a relationship but i have been asked out more than once(not trying to brag or anything). Then there was this one boy who came along last year but i never realized he liked me...so i lost my big chance. Maybe a guy like this will come along when you least expect it. Trust me...just be yourself and he will come along :)
2007-03-22 11:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by iris09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a rather handsome and sexy teenage male, I think if you're attractive enough you wouldn't have to worry about cute boys approaching you. You don't have to approach them neither something as simple as a wink or a nice little smile well get them to notice that your interested in them. Me personally I'm an eye contact kinda guy !
2007-03-22 11:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god story of my life. Let me tell you why you don't need to worry at ALL. Honestly, I was as shy as shy could be, (and a virgin) and one day this cute guy started talking to me. I just did my best to be really sweet to him, laugh at his jokes & smile a lot, and it worked! He kept seeking me out to talk to me, and as he got to know me better I got more comfortable with him, and after a couple months he asked to be my boyfriend and now we've been dating for almost 4 and a half years. Plus I LOVE the fact that he knew I was shy when he first met me and he still liked me & wanted to go out. (And he actually liked that I was a virgin - a lot of guys are like that because they like to think that they can teach you bunch of things.. they feel more manly)
So I wouldn't stress too much about needing to be SUPER outgoing or anything. If you want to boost your confidence a little, just push yourself every day to do one little thing you normally wouldn't feel comfortable doing, like saying hi to someone you'd normally just pass by w/o making eye contact with.
Overall, just embrace the fact that you're the girl who's not as loud as the other ones. That makes you less transparent and a more intruiging to guys. Plus, if you smile a lot & try to make eye contact, guys will know you're sweet & you know that if someone gets to know you, you'll really warm up to them & that's a great secret to have. Trust me, I found out later in life that soooooo many guys have crushes on the shy girl. Don't worry, it'll be ok!
2007-03-22 11:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by blondie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in something that forces you to be outgoing and social - a hobby where you might meet someone. Start a martial art, join a gym that has a lot of areas where people work out, you can always meet guys on the internet ---- just of course be careful before you meet them in real life.
2007-03-22 11:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by stepss1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to overcome your shyness and just be who you are.don't try to act, dress, or even say things thats not really apart of you or else you'll be lieing to yourself and the boy there is a cute boy out there who im sure is your age.
2007-03-22 11:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jochebed O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋