for those of us who had premarital sex will you tell your kids if they ask when you lost your virginity?

Question

i have no idea if i would or wouldn't

i wouldn't lie about waiting but i don't know if i want to tell my age i was 15 and way to young

Answer 1

Im not going to lie to my child if he asks.. But all the details will be left out! I want them to learn from my mistakes so they can make better judgements! I will tell them I didnt wait until I was married, but stress to them how i wish I did.. I want my kids to know that premarital sex is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome in life and I hope they are strong enough to conquer it.. or at least get further then I did!!! lol

Answer 2

Yes I would, and I would stress that it wasn't a good idea, and that they should wait until they are married. I mean I won't go into detail but if they ask I am not going to lie. It isn't like I was sleeping around with the world like some women do now a days. I was with their father...but yes it was before we were married. And we were married before any of our children came. So I have nothing to hide. I believe it is a good idea to have open lines of communication especially when it comes to our children and sex. I sure don't want my kids on here asking for help because they did something way stupid that my husband and I could of helped them with.

Just my thoughts...

Answer 3

Well considering that my common-law husband and I aren't married and we have a child obviously I don't have a big problem with premarital sex.

I'm not going to lie, and I am going to tell the truth but stress that everyone needs to make their own choices. I made the right choices for me and I don't regret it. I do regret that I was forced to make some choices by my parents because of the psycological abuse and being left homeless at 16 but I am proud of and respect the choices I made under difficult circumstance.

God willing my children will never have to go through what I did.

Answer 4

Yeah, I don't mind. I was 22, and very much in love with the same man I am with today. I believed at the time (as I still do now) that it's more important to love someone, not be married and have sex with them, than it is to have a marriage licence, be in a loveless relationship, and yet have sex. I'll tell my children that marriage is an important union between a man and a woman who love each other very much, and that sex is a PART of that. Marriage has everything to do with sex. But sex has nothing to do with marriage.

Answer 5

I think I would tell. I have a 5 year old girl and a 7 month old son. What I have learned through my mother is that trying to play like your all innocent for your child, only makes your child feel like they are the only ones going through things and that your parent knows nothing about "real" stuff. Yes, I will tell my kids the truth

Answer 6

I would tell them when they are at an appropriate age (probably when they are at the age when they are in serious relationships or at least have been dating a while). I just don't want to give them the impression it's ok to have sex at any age when they are too young to really understand. But I do believe in being honest with them.

Answer 7

It depends upon where you wish to set your boundaries as an adult to the child. Some of the other answers indicate that the children would eventually figure it out, if they looked at their birth certificate, and their parents wedding certificate.


Do you know why I looked at my parents papers like that? I can still remember hearing them arguing and screaming so much that....

....I ACTUALLY WANTED TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT THEY GOT MARRIED BECAUSE SHE GOT PREGNANT!!
That was when I was 14...think, the mind of a 14 year old trying to reckon that?


Omg...there.... I had to vent :)
I came in at 10 1/2 months after the paperwork... so I figured that it was a willing situation on both parts :) :)

So, what was your question again? :) :) :)

Answer 8

That is a hard question. I think I would have to tell my kids if they ask. All they would have to do is do some simple thinking. I was 4 months pregnant when I got married. My son is two and I have been married for two years. It would only make sense that I did and I will not lie to my kids.

Answer 9

I would tell my kids. I was 17 when I lost my virginity. Even if I were younger I would still tell. I want to have that bond with my kids that they can come to me with anything. And I wouldn't want them to be looking up to me as a role model but I lied to them about something. I would be straight forward.

Answer 10

I am going to be completely honest with my daughter and baby(don't know if it's a boy or girl yet) I was waaaaayyyyy too young, only 14. And i am going to be able to tell my children how much I regret the decision I made. The good thing about the mistakes we make is that we can teach our children threw them!