I have been with this man on and off for 7 years we have a 5 yr old son. We recently got back together but he is living with his parents cause his mom had a stroke she is about 75 and his dad is about 80 he refuses to come and live with me and his son but he also doesn't want to see his son unless he has time to get away from his parents sometimes it is weeks and months before he has time to see him. He says his parents need him and they come first but he loves his son. He has other brothers who dont have children but none of them will help out. I work and dont have time to drive out to his place which is pretty far. He tells me I am wrong for expecting him to walk away from them just to be with me and our son. I feel like my son should be more important and he owes it to his son to be a father first and his parents are all for him staying with them and not with his son. His dad is able to drive and is in good condition. Is he right or am I just wrong?
2007-03-22 10:18:55 · 10 answers · asked by jojo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think you are very right in wanting your babys dad to spend time with him. I understand that his mother is very ill but she has his dad and other kids too. he can still help out with her and could still be apart of his sons life.I think his son should come first and then let everything else fall in place. I think he has his priorities all messed up. He's not walking away from his mom and dad he's taking care of his responsibilities and doing this to his son he's a lousy father. Your better off finding a new man or just moving on with your life until he decides he wants to grow up. i feel sorry for your son to be treated so badly by his father but atleast you can say that he has you and your doing the best that you can.
2007-03-22 10:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is something else going on. He could easily pick up his son on the weekends and let him stay with him and his parents, it could be a good example for his son to see him help his elderly parents. That's their grandson, they would love to have the little fellow around the house.So it may be something else, If he is caring enough to help his parents in need, he should have the same feelings and care for his young son. So please look into it, why not spend time with his son, is it his work schedule? You should not have to initiate it all the time. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 17:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by doubletree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a mother with a son, put yourself in his parents shoes. He may have other brothers, but maybe he is the responsible one out of them. You two need to sit down & work out a schedule. Or maybe you just need to realize he's not looking @ it as picking or chooseing what to do. He'e sees it as he's just taking care of his parents, his mother. The woman that brought him into this world.
2007-03-22 17:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is no kind of father to your son!! He is seeing his son as only important when it is convienent for him. It is sad that your son is going to grow up with no father figure and you are continuing to go out of your way when ever he "makes time". This guy is worthless and he is the one that is wrong. I would stop making him a priority and find your self a decent guy to be a father figure to your son.
2007-03-22 17:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with you about your guy needing to spend more time with your son. But you also have to think of it this way, his parents may not be around much longer and he is trying to spend as much time with them as possible. Tell him that you understand why he is living with his parents...they need him. But tell him that you and your son need him too. Ask him if he can try to spend just a little more time with you two. But try to be understanding if he can't.....things won't be like this forever.
2007-03-22 17:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your wrong for wanting your son to have a connection with his father but i do think u need to understnad that ur ex is doing the best he can. leaving his parents for a day of fun with his son would not b posible for him because in the back of his mind he would worry about his parents. idk if your situation is friendly enough but u could suggest that u look after his parents for the day while ur son and his father go out and bond. i see that this is a tough situation but justtry to understand. good luck!
2007-03-22 17:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by cutie123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dad is 'in good condition'..... Damn.... you make him sound like a description of a used car!!! You both are wrong. Make him sit down with you & work this out, otherwise put him on child support.
2007-03-22 17:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by chevy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes cheating...he probably just doesent want a son...and I would say move on find a better man you do not seem to be stupid so you deserve a better man just dump him before he dumps you.
2007-03-22 17:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by cutiebabe66048@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves his son, let him prove it.
2007-03-22 17:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to live with you
2007-03-22 17:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋