Could u help me deal with one of the scariest times of my life??

Question

I'm 19... Feel completely lost. Scared. Feel as if i'm blindfolded n left in a jungle.. N i think i'm turning into the very person i don't want to be- A reticent creature.. N because of that i'm even having trouble sharing my problem with the people around me.. If i'm asked how i am, al i do is hide myself behind the most butchered word by me- FINE. I've always had a happy outlook towards everything.. But have been getting quite deppressive lately.. May be i'm scared of being an adult.. Or may be i'm just loosing it..

Thanks for all those words.. i know that it definitely is depression n i had been to a shrink but he was a sleepyhead.. Didn't help. All whatever i managed to spill out in the question's just the tip of the iceberg, i've kept so many emotions n things locked up in my heart that i feel on tha verge of an explosion..

Answer 1

That age sucks! Lots of choices to make. It will get better. You need something that can be a life long goal to work on. What is your fav thing to do? Make that your path.

Answer 2

Look for a true friend who will understand what you are going through. It really helps if you can talk to someone with the same wavelength.

Every stage in our life is different but significant. Whatever we do at present will greatly affect our future, so be careful in your decisions.

Scary as it may seem, what is the worse thing that could happen to you when you become an adult? Just enjoy your life a day at a time and avoid thinking too much about problems.

Answer 3

Trust me when I say that these feelings aren't unique to just the age of 19; we all have those times more than we would care to admit. It may sound silly, but get a journal and start writing down exactly what you are feeling (happy, sad, afraid) and WHAT it is that has made you feel that particular way at that particular time. Consider putting yourself out there in a volunteer setting (soup kitchen,hospital, nursing home, maybe big sisters of america) and you may just find that helping others helps YOU in the process as well. AS far as being afraid of being an adult, trust me, I am 43 and there are some days adulthood scares me too....hang in there sweetie!

Answer 4

That is what i have been experiencing for the past couple of months. Knowing nothing to do when things are just as CRYSTAL CLEAR in front ! I am telling you i know exactly what are you talking about. My personality is that i try to look happy and help others out in every type of problems and when it`s my turn then i find my self all alone ! I just think you need the right company of friends. Go out and have more fun. At least that`s what i do when i feel that way. And remember the more you think about it, the more ii will bother you, so don`t worry and stay calm and cool. There`s nothing wrong with you my pal, if u are still confused, u can reach me by my mail,
Pleasure to HELP !
Salik

Answer 5

What you described is very common for that age. You are entering a phase in your life where it may seem that your peers are heading straight on to a path that is secure and certain, but trust me, you are looking at that with rose colored glasses as you compare your own life to what's out in the world. It's not easy for anyone. I felt the same way at that age. It will pass. As hard to believe as that may seem, IT WILL PASS! You will find direction and when you do, it will be as if someone has lifted that blindfold and left you in a garden of plenty, with sunshine all around you. Hang tight. Don't give up on yourself, and don't be so hard on yourself. Ask for the help that you need from someone that you trust, and believe this: that help will come. Life isn't easy, but it's what we know and all we have. My heart goes out to you, and I hope this helps. Keep your head up!

Post Script;
I have to comment that you are very articulate in your statement. It's quite obvious that you are far from being a dummy. I don't doubt that you can handle what is out there. You have to not doubt that fact as well.

Answer 6

well, some of this advise that was given to you is good. some mediocre, some i would guess are point gamers. irregardless, i would say that for one, some might be normal, to feel thrusted into an area of your life that is inevitable and may not feel ready for. i would say that most people dont' give themselves enough credit to what they can handle. and i would say you are in that bracket. i would also say that you might need some professional help in the situation. which is not a bad think. people tend to think that if you seek professional counselling with a psychiatrist or mental health worker that it means your bonkers. but you would go to a GP if you had something physically wrong. you would go cause that is the doctor you need at the time. you will not need the doctor constantly for the same thing for the rest of your life generally. so same thing. you go to a psychiatrist or M.H.W to seek help and they will help to get it straightened out for you. but i would say that there is nothing wrong with you. i think the only wrong thing would be not seeking the help you need.

Answer 7

You soud like you definately are getting some mental health issues, which could be good news because they have come along way with medicine. I was that age when I fiirst got depressed, it was horrible, until i was suicidal then I learned it was in my family and I could go to doctor and get med. You sound like you could be getting severe anxiety or panic disorder or developing a phobia and it could end up getting worse where you wont leave house if you dont seek treatmemt. That is gong to your primary doctor and telling him how your feeling, hopefully he will give you an exam then prescribe some anti anxiety meds and not send you to a Pshyc. doctor. You sound like you just neet the right med. You need to trat this like anyother cond. and its better then getting cancer, or MS this is completely manageable and within 2 weeks you willl probably feel so much better.

Answer 8

You sound to me like you are in touch with your feelings and that doesn't mean you are losing it or not mature. HOW you deal with these feelings determines your success. Try to identify what in particular it is that is causing you so much stress and do research about it-find out about the subject or situation-knowledge is power. If you don't want to talk with someone you know, look for people in that field or area you can talk with-also if it is overwhelming, you might consider a counseling session with a therapist or someone in a similar position. We all feel overwhelmed at times. You are in a place in your life where you need to make some choices and you are feeling that. Try to determine what direction you want to take and explore it. If you change your mind, change your direction. I hope you feel better about things soon.

Answer 9

Well, I'm 53 & I still feel that way sometimes! I find that going to a video arcade that has games with hand held guns helps me to stabilize my trapped energy & I can "kill" things in a safe manner! When people ask "how are you", I drown them in the truth & they go away! I hate people who ask & don't really care. That's why I pretend they are the ones on the video screen & I take them out. I always feel better after I shoot everything that moves. It's good, clean, safe fun. Most importantly, it's legal & no one ever gets hurt OR arrested! Try it...you might find it relaxes your mind!

Answer 10

The most important thing is that you speak to someone - a friend, a sibling, your mom or dad, anyone. You don't have to spill your guts but you do need to get some of this out of your system - to talk about feeling lost. It's normal - everyone feels out of place and scared sometimes. Seriously. If you talk to someone - anyone - you'll learn that you're not alone and you'll feel better. Please don't keep to yourself. No matter how much it hurts, get yourself out there to connect with one person. Then another. It WILL get better.
Take care.

Answer 11

I'm 16 and i've been suffering for cronic depression for about a year. i always hide behind FINE i never seem to let any one know how i'm feeling i dont trust in people who problems. i can't even find trust in my family its that bad. I've never felt completely happy and am always have trouble with something. i've been smoking ever since my depression started, he helps me relieve stress. I'm not saying you should start just find a way for you to relieve your emotions. Like crying, or talking (if you can find someone you trust to talk to you'll have to get the courage to tell them) or another good thing for me is writing.
hope this helps