My boyfriend has pulled away from me, he has become distant with me due to work stress and problems. He works full-time and during his free time during evenings, he looks for a new job. He has had few interviews, some near my city but he has not been accepted anywhere yet. He is still waiting for some answers. He is unhappy with his current job and hates it. He told me on Saturday he is not feeling well about it. I am worrying about this and I am sad worrying that he is loosing interest in our relationship as he has not been attentive and I don't hear from him much? I am happy as he texted me yesterday but today I asked him if we could meet up as we live an hour away from each other. He said that weekend he goes home to see his family. I asked him about the weekend and he replied with " I don't know, we will see". What can I do?
2007-03-22 09:52:01 · 16 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him space.
He will decide what he is going to do on his own. push him and he is gone.
2007-03-22 09:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Clay R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back Off! You just gave a detailed description of the amount of stress he already has in his life. Maybe he is distancing himself because you are adding to it by being so needy when he needs support. You are screaming and yelling for attention when you should be listening and attending to him.
The more you make him feel that he is forced to nurture you the more he will pull away. He has enough on his mind without having to worry about you feeling neglected.
When he gets his career path figured out and isnt spending so much time stressed out about it, he will relax and enjoy your company again, but there is nothing you can do to force that.
2007-03-22 17:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven´t mentioned how long you´ve been going out with him, so i have to ask if you´re sure he´s single!! I have a very suspicious mind. If you´ve been going out with him for some time and know that he´s single and stressed by work probs, then be yourself, as you were when you got together at the beginning of the relationship, make him re-fall in love with you again using the same arms...and don´t pressure him, it´s the last thing he needs
2007-03-22 17:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well either he is cheating on u that is y he hasn't gotten n e call backs about job interveiws or he has just lost interest in u or he really is stressed and needs comfort. long distance relationships can be very difficult because as with yourself u miss the other so much that it causes stress in eachothers life and that significant other is usaully who helps u wen u r stressed
2007-03-22 17:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ krista ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stop making excuses for think thats what........
your relationship is clearly not as important to him as it is to you thats for sure.
i think sooner or later you are going to have to face the truth here...... it sounds to me like his interest is going... you live 1 hour away from each other he is working hard (so he says)
mate we live in a disposable world......... relationships are ten a penny for those that want a leg over....... there is little commitment in the world left..... most people see a problem and run into the arms of another....... only to start the whole cycle again.....
your man is a lost cause....... he isnt interested...... so give up , stop making excuses for him. and move on
good luck
2007-03-22 16:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by in the truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. I know that you are concerned about him, and you want to spend time with him. However, his job is stressing him out and your requests for his attention right now are just another thing in his life. If he knows you are there and you care about him, he'll seek you out when he's not so frazzled.
2007-03-22 16:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever read the book "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus"? I would if I was you its an amazing book and quite insightful, I would leave him for a while be there for him and be supportive not a nag, let him know you believe that he will get through this.
2007-03-22 17:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Amy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if there is anything you can do to help... that way he knows you are there for him. But if he is stressed and worried, maybe keep you distance too for a little bit, until it all blows over.
2007-03-22 16:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by girlvette2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is offer him support during this difficult time, but also tell him how YOU feel about these problems for work. Good luck.
2007-03-22 16:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him the hell alone. He needs time to deal with this job thing. You being needy is only going to stress him out more. Think about him for once.
2007-03-22 16:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems to be going thru a rough time. Maybe a little extra breathing room from you might help.
2007-03-22 16:56:45 · answer #11 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋