I have a friend who I knew for years. We used to be close, but she started flirting. I started to like her and confessed I did. She led me on but claims she did not mean to. Once I liked her a lot, she let me down. I was not angry about this - merely confused, but then, she blamed me for misinterpreting her actions which were clearly flirty to everyone around. I have started to keep our conversations short, and she called to ask if I am mad at her. How can I seamlessly eliminate her from my group of friends?
2007-03-22 09:48:19 · 12 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her the truth. Just like you put it here.
2007-03-22 09:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I was in a similar situation back in high school.. I was that girl. Dont eliminate her because you are embarrased or because she has a flirtatious manner... when youre friends you accept people for what they are. If you dont stay friends with her then you were just using her the whole time to get closer to her not because you wanted to be friends with her. In that case you both dont deserve each other. If you want to keep the friendship then I suggest having a talk with her about how uncomfortable it makes you feel that she 'flirts' with you. Let her know that if you two are to remain friends then she needs to respect that you dont want your chain to be pulled or lead on anymore. If you still want to eliminate her as a friend delete her number from your phone, block her on aim, take her off facebook and myspace :o) less communication is the key to end a friendship.
2007-03-22 16:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by itsSCIENCE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the way your friend treated you. Sometimes this happens when you cross over the line of friendship into a relationship.
Anyway, would eliminating her from your life stop you from being with the other friends that you share? If not, explain to your friend the confusion you feel and you'd be better off not being friends anymore.
2007-03-22 16:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot, I'd just come right out with it. Tell her that she was flirting with you and that you felt led on. Let her know that those kind of flirtatious actions may one day cause her alot of problems. She sends a message and one day one guy is just gonna take it from her. Let her know that you are upset with her and that you really want nothing to do with her.
2007-03-22 17:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling her.. (Do you call her?) Talk to your other friends more than her.. Barely talk to her, never initiate conversations. Make excuses to hang out with other people than her on the weekends (Or just don't invite her, make plans before she can ask you), and before you know it you won't be friends anymore.
But that is pretty harsh and you might do better just to tell her that you don't want to be friends anymore.
2007-03-22 17:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by regina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't eliminate her from your friends but you can distance yourself until you are able to be in her presence without feeling uncomfortable......Some times we are unsure of a person but we give it a shot (because we are human) to see if this is really what we want and we fail to take notice that we hurt feeling's in between...WE don't mean to BUT it happen's kind of like **** HAPPENS<------haha!!
Don't you believe in finding who you really want to be with..?
Have you tested the waters..? If not maybe you should....
It's always easier to blame another when we are in the wrong because we don't except...Admit... it's a bit hard seeing when where wrong because it's our point of view and not there's..
Mis-communication....difference's.....Hey it's not a bad thing to feel this way IN-FACT it shows you have a heart<-----sweet
......TRY not to think of it as she let you down....That's like saying YOU MAKE me angry....no one makes us angry WE let ourselves get angry............COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY
2007-03-22 17:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you feel like the two of you have grown apart and you think it's best if you were no longer friends
2007-03-22 16:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be direct, she doesn't seem to take hints, girls today are not sensitive little flowers like they used to be, they're more like football players tackling you. no wonder you guys run.
2007-03-22 18:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm don`t feel bad ihave that problem just let it blow over good luck
2007-03-22 17:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by livingexperience 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being honest, it works
2007-03-22 16:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Boom Boom! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋