Niece is very unhappy... what can i do?

Question

My neice is 8 years old. She is having a horrible time at school. She says that she has no friends and every day is so bad for her. She doesnt even want to go to school anymore. She will come home crying. I dont know what to do. I have spoken to the girls mother that mainly picks on my neice and let me tell you..i know where her daughter gets it from. My niece doesnt want to tell on this girl anymore because she gets teased for being a tattel tail. My neice wants to be popular so bad! I have told her to stand up to the kids and not to let anyone put her down. She said that they have even called her a b*tch. I am totally lost i just want to run away with her. And of course she has freckles and everyone makes fun of her for that as well. My neice also hates her dad. He hasnt been around very much. But i have her on the weekends that he is suppose to have her because she hates going over there because all he does is ignore her and spend time with her brother.
Any Suggestions????

as an aunt do i have any options??? I just dont think that my sister is doing enough to protect her daughter? Can i speak to the principle? Will they even tell me anything. I do not have custody or anything of my neice. I cant just transfer her school. I dont even know if i can ask for her class to be changed.

Answer 1

Oh that is horrible. In these days, kids can be very cruel. Bless her little heart. I mean no disrespect in any kind of way but you seem more of a mother to your niece than your sister. I mean you talked to the girl's mother and your sister should be doing that. But you love your niece and you are trying everything in your power that you can do to help and protect her. There is one thing that you can do. You, your sister and niece, should go to the principal and the teachers along with the other girl and her parents to talk about the situation. I think that might be a start and tell her that she isn't a tattle tale because if she is getting picked on, then she has a right to tell someone. Who knows if the other would even put her hands on your niece so she did the right thing. And she is also trying to protect herself.Also, tell your niece that being popular isn't all that important. She should focus on making good grades and having fun being an 8 year old. As far as her dad goes, I wouldn't even worry about it because I'm pretty sure that she will do just fine without him. But get your sister, your niece and yourself into a meeting with the principal, teachers, counselors and the girls that pick on her and let them know what exactly is going on. Whatever negative thing they say about her, discredit as soon as she tells you and let her know what you think about her and make her smile because that will get her self-esteem and confidence up.

Answer 2

Have you tried talking to the teachers, principal, or guidance counselor at school? I'm sure you have already sat your niece down and told her that she is special. Reassure her. I would go to the school and demand that something be done about what is going on at school. No child deserves to be treated that way in school and she should not be coming home crying every day. Maybe the school will call in her Mother and have a talk with her. Can she be moved to a different class room? I would also consider checking into that option as well if you havent already. God bless her little heart. I cant stand the thoughts of that little one feeling that way not only at school but at her Dads too. God bless you and your niece.

Answer 3

Continue to be a positive part of her life. You may not be able to change what goes on at school (but I think this sounds serious enough for the school to take some serious actions against the bully girl) but you can make her life away from school happy. When you have her do things that she can bond with you while doing... going and getting manicures, a day at the mall, etc. She needs a companion and until she finds friends at school at least she knows she has one in you.

Answer 4

Tell the principal if she get called a tattle tale who cares thats not the worst theing either. For her, she should try to hang out with people that will stand up to that one girl that makes fun of her. Or get ur niece to get older friends that will help her when times get rough

Answer 5

Well maybe you can try to get her into another school where she can start fresh.Kids use to pick on me because I was chubby and I had a horrible time in elementary school.Once I was in Junior High I was very shy and it was hard to make friends,but people started talking to me and telling me that I was pretty.Now I am a high school grad and I know I am very beautiful,and I look back at those elementary kids that picked on me and I have no hard feelings towards them,heck we were just kids

Answer 6

when she is with you, try not to talk about anything sad or depressing. let her have Fun with you. let her be comfortable, and feel that she is at ease with you. perhaps u can introduce her to some kids in the neighborhood, or some of ur friends kids and have a play date...so she can meet people outside of school. going to a new school COULD help..but what if it happens again? =T.

good luck...just keep on doing what ur doing... :)

Answer 7

Awwwww transfer her to another school.
One with nicer kids.

She shouldn't be treated this way. I think her teachers or even the principal should know about this.

Answer 8

Transfer her niece to a different school, and that niece dad is a complete bastard.

Answer 9

Go to her school one day, and tell the principal.

Answer 10

Just be there for her my daughter has the same problem