My family is telling me what to do instead me doing something that I love.
2007-03-22 09:04:23 · 36 answers · asked by Ashanti W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course not!
2007-03-22 09:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age as to how appropriate this is. Sometimes parents, aunts, etc. feel that they don't want you to repeat their errors so they caution you, or better yet make decisions for you. It is well intended, remember that they are trying to look out for you. As for doing what you love, when you love what you do, you are half way to sucess. Sometimes being able to do what we love all the time is not realistic, I love to write, but am not an author b/c it wouldn't support my family. I keep this alive by having a blog, and using Yahoo Answers. I hope that helps and best of luck. Sometimes our dreams have to find different outlets if they can not provide our immeidate needs. Find another avenue, don't give it up, just keep it balanced with reality.
2007-03-22 09:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by msfeliz777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are.....let's say you are 17 or so. Sometimes it's a cultural thing.....doesn't matter how old the kids are, they still are expected to obey their parents. Other times, the parents are living vicariously thru their kids. And maybe they are literally trying to do what they think is best for you. If what you 'love' is say, to be an actress, I'm sure they will encourage you to go to college since that is such a difficult field to be successful in.
My advice is to really sit down and go thru your goals, etc. Make a sensible decision based on what is best for you - regardless of what they think. Parents/family like to tell you what to do but they are not the ones who have to literally live with the outcome... you must be true to yourself.
2007-03-22 09:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are planning to do. They should stand by you on whatever your dreams are, but if they believe you are making a big mistake, they may be just trying to steer you in a better direction. I think you should seek guidance from someone very wise and knowledgeable to see if you are making smart choices. It doesn't sound like you trust your parents' judgment, and not all parents have good judgment. You definitely have to believe in your own ability to make decisions, and not let anyone completely control you.
2007-03-22 09:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not plan, but assist, yes. At some point, you have to assert your adulthood. You have to choose when they are looking out for your best interest and when they are just interfearing. It's hard. If you are 18 then it's up to you when and how you set boundries with your family. Just remember, they are the people who will always love you, so you don't have to end it with them, just make boundries for them. You'll want their support when you make mistakes in life!!
2007-03-22 09:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you love. If you dont you will resent them for the rest of your life. If they bug you just try a reverse approach. Tell THEM what you want them to do (make sure it is something u know they dont want), then when they say no,just tell them when they are ready to live their lives all according to your wishes you will consider living yours the way they want.
2007-03-22 09:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not no matter what they HAD planned for you. You decide for yourself.....(but only if you are retarded or some other thing) but other wise you should do what you want, go where you want, see what you want, and plan your life. JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT NO MATTER WHAT YOUR FAMILY FOR YOU PLANNED!!!!!
2007-03-22 09:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age, if you're under 18, then yes, they pretty much have control. If not, then you need to step up, and tell them that you're going to do what you want. The only reason not to do that, and for them to step in, is if you would be harming yourself in some way.
2007-03-22 09:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are 18? Probably.
After 18? Seldom.
After 21? Never.
2007-03-22 09:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are 12, your family should. If you are 21 and over, its up to you. Receive family input with gratitude and appreciation, but in the end,. its up to you.
2007-03-22 09:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deffinately need to step up to your family, you need to live your own life. i mean when you grow up and get old and look back on your life, you dont want to be laying in bed thinking, i wish i did this, i wish i did that... tell ur family that its your life and your going to live it the way you want to and that they are not allowed to live your life for you :)
good luck! :)
hope this helped
2007-03-22 09:08:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋