Well Im 6 months pregnanat and due in June. My husband just got a huge career oppertunity. We are both in the military. He got offered a chance to be a Generals personal security detachment (body guard). He really wants to do it. The thing is he has to have an answer in a few days. Then he would go to Iraq for a year in June, when im due. I have a few options. I can either let him go and stay in, let him go and get out, get out and stay w his parents, get out and live by myself or I could just tell him i dont want him to go and he would stay. I have no idea what to do. What would you do? We could use the money for the baby and a down payment on a house. He will likely make over $60,000 over there. I have went through one deployment with him and dont know if I can do another one. Help?!?!?!?
2007-03-22 08:59:51 · 8 answers · asked by Worried wife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let him choose. If you make the choice for him he'll resent you. Stand by HIS decision since it is HIS opportunity.
2007-03-22 09:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and stay in until the baby is born are longer. I know what your saying "What the h#@@ for" Well one you are doing a job that you were trained to do, so it will occupy your time while he is gone. You will also have a built in support system and a steady income, a better child care system in service then out (former service so I played both sides) if its just to much you can still get out later. Hubby wont hate you or resent the child for make give up a dream for a better life(maybe he can ge a delay til after the birth) for his wife and first born.
2007-03-26 16:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by wiggliy66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be a hard decision for me as well. You will have to weight the options and figure out how you will spend the time without him. Stay in, move in with his parents, or live alone. Then you can make a decision that is right for the both of you. If he really wants to go I would consider his feelings as you don't want him to resent you later. that he made the decision to stay for you
2007-03-26 15:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
families are about sacrifice. Yours, his...believe me. this won't be the first or the last time you'll have to sacrifice. In the end what matters in life, are your relationships. Do what's best for the over all family. Stay and make it work. You knew he was in the military when you committed to him. There would be deployments. Why would you turn back on your committment when you already knew all of this?
2007-03-22 16:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be best for him to stay, otherwise you are gonna have a pretty hard time taking care of that kid by yourself. i'm sure the post pardom depression wont be much fun if you have to go through that alone...
money isnt everything
2007-03-22 16:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by theresa200586 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the money will help you both and he will come back maybe it is worth the sacrafice.
2007-03-22 16:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the decision.
2007-03-22 16:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and stay with his parents good luck!!!!!1
2007-03-22 16:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by i totally agree with you!! not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋