How can I get over my fear of hubby cheating on me? Why am I so jealous, I was never like this with any other mate. He hasnt done anything to suggest he would cheat, but he is older and is very openabout his past sex life which leads me to believe he was permiscuous for a time. What do you think?
2007-03-22 08:59:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not a stupid question. You are wise to seek the advice of others.
Learn to trust yourself and the insecurity and jealousy will go away. You have to trust that no matter what he chooses to do that you will be okay, with him or without him.
The past is not the present. Don't buy into your fears if you have no concrete evidence that he is cheating on you.
If you act and speak on your fears, you will create the very thing that you fear. You will drive him away. Just say to yourself "this is my fear. This is my insecurity. I refuse to accept this. I love my husband and we are faithful to one another." Don't buy into the darkness of your fears.
2007-03-22 09:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can destroy a relationship by jealousy. If he is older and you are younger, he may have done all he wanted in the past and is actually ready to settle down with someone that he loves. Be careful about pushing about cheating, you may push away. Check his cell phone. copy down the calls he sent and received, and numbers. Use another phone to check the calls and find out the frequency of the calls. Likely, he will make calls around the same time to the same number, call the number by other phone and see who answers. Try reverse directory on line.
2007-03-22 09:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by Clay R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing I think to think about, this guy is older than you, because he's probably more mature and worldy than you're used to; therefore that can bring out insecurities in someone. I think you could just enjoy the time you have with him and see where it goes. If he doesn't show signs of cheating etc...I wouldn't worry. He obviously feels comfortable with you and his past otherwise he wouldn't have mentioned some things, you know?
2007-03-22 09:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have no reason to distrust him you are not being fair to him. You need to stop questioning his fidelity. Even if he had a past that wasn't squeaky clean he is now married to you and loves you. I am sure that you have done things in your past also that were not perfect. This is why I believe that we should not tell everything about our past because some people can just not handle hearing about it. Try not to be so insecure and believe that he loves you.
2007-03-22 09:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married to him so know you must learn to trust him. He deserves your trust until he proves other wise.
2007-03-22 09:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you sexually satisfy him tonight...punch him in the groin and tell him that it will be worse the next time he even mentions bologna...
2007-03-22 09:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by Chris P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋