Ok here it goes....my daughter's bed is right next to ours...she goes to sleep in her bed, but eventually crawls into our bed sometime during the night and will not go back to sleep unless i get her a bottle. When she spends the night at her cousin's house....she goes to bed in a pack and play and sleeps the entire night through and doesn't wake until 9:00 a.m.!!!! I HAVE NEVER SLEPT PAST 7:30 A.M. SINCE I HAD HER??!!! We can't move her into her own room yet because its under construction. WHATS UP WITH HER??? why does she sleep so well when she's away from us???
2007-03-22 08:53:47 · 17 answers · asked by Brielle'sMom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Because yu give her what she wants - milk and a cuddle. If you deny her those things then she will start sleeping through.
2007-03-22 09:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
since her room is not ready. pull out the pack and play and put it in the living room or dining room, This way if she wakes up she know it is not time to get up and hopefully goes back to sleep. As for the wanting a bottle in the middle of the night she is 2 and does not need any nutrition in the middle of the night so get a sippy cup of water and give her a drink and then put her back in the pack and play. Let her cry ( I know that sounds mean and cruel but it works) it will be rough for a few nights but as soon as she sees you are serious and not backing down she will start going back to sleep on her own
2007-03-22 16:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by littledevilinyourcup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me put it this way. if you were home with your husband would you willingly choose to sleep alone?? She loves you and loves to sleep with someone and who can blame her. She probably sleeps better away from home for the very same reason a child will behave better for baby sitters then for their own parents, because they know what they can get away with and becasue they are not as connected with the other people as their own parents.
Also when she is with other kids she was also probably VERY active that really wore her out. Be sure she had lots of physical activity that day, toddlers are just little balls of energy.
My son started sleeping in his own bed at 2 years old, we had to try a few different ideas but eventually found one that worked.
what worked for us is we told him he could sleep in our bed on certain days but only if he slept in his bed on others (after explaining how he was a big boy now and momma needed her sleep.)
other things to try is let her bring a special toy into her bed or give her something special for staying in their bed. Or make a chart and give her soemthing when the chart is full.
or just keep putting her backin her bed when she trys to join you (calmly and uietly to keep her relaxed and sleepy)
the big key is to just stick with it for a while, it won't happen over night but will happen an can happen without a lot of tears.
2007-03-22 17:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have had the same issue with our 3 year old. Sleeps well at others and also sleeps in at others. When home, he wakes up between 7 and 7:30am. He occassionally would come into our room at night and crawl in bed to fall asleep. We keep putting him back in his bed. It is a painful process but it eventually works. It doesn't help your cause that she is in the same room. We found that if the kid can see you at night they are more likely to wake up. Good luck. I feel your pain.
2007-03-22 16:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by EDHAWK 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When shes away from you, she cant see you and therefore may not feel the need to get up. If she wakes up and sees you, she probly just wants to crawl into bed with you because she feels more secure with you by her side. As soon as her room is done I would move her bed in there so when she wakes up she doesnt see you and doesnt feel the need to sleep with you. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-03-22 16:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She moves in to your bed, b/c you are there. Try putting her in a pack and play at your house and see if you see the same results as when she it away from you. Or you could move her bed to another room or the pack and play to another room...good luck!
2007-03-22 16:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by glazeddonut27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have any luck at this until her room is finished. I think the only thing you can really do is put her back in her bed when you wake up and realize she is there. As for the bottle, start giving her water in the bottle, she will probably lose interest when she realizes there is no milk in it.
2007-03-22 16:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it has to do with you being in the same room. She hears everything, every move, so on.
As to why she sleeps so well when she is away, does she have a blanky, or a "security" something? That may be why. Or maybe when she is there, they keep her up later and she sleeps longer, or maybe there is something about the house that makes her "homely"
You did say that your house is under construction.
2007-03-22 16:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy Lou 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My 2 y/o is mildly autistic, and we just faced this problem. We just had to be consistant, it took about 2 weeks of physically putting back in her own bed. Some times as many as 3 times a night. (I thought I was going to die of sleep deprivation) She still requires a sippy cup at night, I refill it with water after she falls asleep. Reward Reward Reward those good nights!! Good Luck!
2007-03-22 16:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by say_tay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
beat her! No im just playing my son is 5 almost 6 and he still sleeps with me he is my baby and i want him to leave when he is ready now if she crys and cant leave ur side u have a prob. my son stays at grams or aunt's with no prob n when he is there he sleeps by himself. As for the bottle shame on u she is 2 ur messing up her teeth. She needs to know that she is a big girl and big girls drink out of big girl cups! my baby hasn't had a bottle since 1yr old. Dont rush her leaving u because one day she is not going to wanna be with u and ur gonna miss these times.
2007-03-22 16:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by ll_chicago_girl_ll 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i watched this same situation on supernanny. and what she did was everytime the daughter crawled into the parents bed... first one parent got out of bed and gave her a warning and took her by the hand back to her room, second time the parent didn't say anything just grabbed her hand and put her back in bed. and each time the daughter got out of bed one parent with any words said, grabbed her hand and took her back to bed. within a half hour she was out. and within the following week she had not once got out of bed. as for not going to bed without a bottle, again watched it on supernanny, to ween her out of it, the parent laid on her side with toddler close to her chest, with a sippy cup. of course the toddler cried and cried but the mother kept petting the daughters hair and soon she fell asleep and within days she was off the bottle. as for sleeping away from you i'm not sure. good luck
2007-03-22 16:07:51 · answer #11 · answered by brandnsays 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋