your boyfriend had the following qualities:
kind, loving, generous with time and money, remembers b'days, valentines days, calls to check on you, takes you out to places and always foots the bill, spends holidays like xmas with you, even the new year, a good communicator, hardworking and even talks about having children, starting a business with you/without him taking any money from you.... but.... is hesistant to take you to his home because he's not ready for you to visit! he's not homeless as he owns more than 20 apartment buildings.... and can't possibly be married cuz i see him from friday to sunday every week and some weekdays, i can call his cell at anytime and he spends holidays with me... wants me to accompany him to florida for him to have a look for possible vacation homes....so what could be the problem??
2007-03-22 08:52:32 · 20 answers · asked by get outta here howdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. Are you sure he isn't married? It's either that or he just sees you as someone to spend time with, but not spend the future with.
About 15 years ago, I was horrified to find out the man I had been seeing was married. I had no clue. He spent the money, the time, and I called him at home. He was just that sneaky. I ended the so-called relationship immediately. You should be prepared to do the same. Married men are not future relationships for single women.
Perhaps you should pay an unexpected visit to his home.
Best luck.
2007-03-22 08:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... he has to be hiding something, but what? Sounds like a stand up guy. You never did say how long you have been together though. Maybe he is married but his wife/live in girlfriend travels away on business alot? Maybe he lives with his mother? Maybe his roomates are pigs? Maybe he has a female roomate but is afraid you will think there is more to it if you find out? Have you NEVER seen the inside of his place? Do you know where he lives? There is something weird about it, but I don't know. Maybe he really doesnt have any money and is maxing out all his credit cards to buy you things and take you out. Maybe he has no furniture or anything? Sorry, don't know about this one, but it's not normal...
2007-03-22 15:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by wawa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he sounds like a great guy but that is a wierd thing about the no house tour?????? I would just let him know that you want to be a part of his world and explain to him that you want to see where he lives and how he lives. Tell him in a way he can't refuse........just tell him that you want to like make dinner for him or something and tell him that you are going to have all of the groceries and all he needs to do is pick you up and you will make it at his place.....ask him what you need to bring as far as cooking utensils as a lot of guys may not have enough pots and pans and stuff ....tell him you won't take no for an answer and that you are doing this to show him how much you care for and appreciate him.
2007-03-22 15:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by mouthygirl20012001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things is going on here, either he really is marrie and hiding it very well, or he's embarassed about his living conditions. If he's always gone and taking care of things and spending time elsewhere (which is with you and that's a terrific thing) he may not be keeping house very well. I would come out and ask. You don't want to be confrontational about it, but keeping probing until you hear things that sound right so he can't give any excuses =) Good Luck!
2007-03-22 15:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it sounds like he is married to me. All the time spent does not mean a thing. They may not be on good terms. Some women don't care what their husbands do as long as they can keep their lifestyle. The biggest clue that something is wrong is when you can't go to his house. Ask him, girl because something does not sound right, but then deep down you already knew this.
2007-03-22 15:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He spends Friday-Sunday with you? I'd say that's the only days he can get away from his wife. Maybe he's got a 2nd cell phone just for you, or something. Is he old enough to have a family yet?
2007-03-22 15:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl he is married!!! Fri-Sun means nothing he could very well lie to his wife about working u never know these days!! He is probably just selling u dreams...don't be so NAIVE.
His wife probably don't care cause if he has all those things she probably is living large & don't care cause if he left she would take him for everything he has!! Just be a woman & flat out ask him....DEMAND an answer!!!
2007-03-22 16:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Cappy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the guy is really messy and is afraid you think. he sounds very considerate so i would just wait till he feels it's the right time to have you over
2007-03-22 15:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by shortie_chick260 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is all those wonderful things,
then i think he can handle you asking that simple question.
just approach him and ask.
easy as pie :]
mebe his house is a mess!
who knows.
i say you should just casually start that conversation.
kindof a..
"hey, i wanted to ask you this, i was just a little confused about _____"
and it'll take off from there
2007-03-22 16:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by ninjah_jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is ashamed of his family. Or maybe he knows something about his family to the point where they might not except you. Something is wrong. Nothing is perfect in life.
2007-03-22 15:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋