I’m going out on a date this weekend with someone I’ve never met in person. We’ve talked over the phone for the past month, but I’m having first-date anxiety. What can I do to go into this feeling more confident? I’m also afraid that we won’t have anything to talk about (we covered a lot of the “getting to know you” questions on the phone). I’m afraid of awkward silences ... and (even worse) turning into a babbling idiot! Any advice... soothing words... etc? What are excellent topics to discuss? thank you...
2007-03-22 08:49:38 · 6 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.............................DID YOU MEET HIM ON MYSPACE?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?! b/c if u did make sure you can trust him
2007-03-22 08:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, Make sure to meet somewhere public. You should also avoid having to walk to your car across a dark parking lot. Never leave any food or drink unattended with him, because you never know if he might try to slip something into it.
That being said, relax a little. Do something you enjoy like skating, bowling or something like that. Trust me, if you go for dinner you might end up staring at each other over the table in awkward silence.
Be yourself. He isn't perfect. You aren't perfect. So don't pretend to be. If you are too worried about making a good impression you might seem stuffy and dull. Let your inner beauty shine through! Don't think you have to agree with all of his opinions. It actually makes a date more interesting if you can challenge each other a little (and nicely).
Meeting new people can be wonderful and exciting! Remember, he is probably just as nervous as you are! Relax and be confident in yourself and you and your date will have a great time!
2007-03-22 09:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mara Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet somewhere public where there are a lot of people around - maybe go ice-skating or something like that. This'll give you something to concentrate on and you won't have to be searching frantically for something to say. Plus if he turns out to be not all that you hoped you can get away easier. Another good idea is to have a friend call you about an hour after the appointed time. If you're having fun and all is well you can keep on, but if you need a way out you can tell him you gotta go meet your friend. You're really sorry and all that.
2007-03-22 09:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by the wonderer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have less first date anxiety and more "I hope this guy I never met is really who he says he is and not some one who is going to rape and murder me" anxiety.
2007-03-22 08:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at ( http://www.reducingstress.net )
There is a lot of good information and help there for stress issues.
2007-03-25 04:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
movies, sports, world events, weather, pets, family, work, cars, clothes, friends....ok I think that should get you started
2007-03-22 08:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋