be honest
2007-03-22 08:40:31 · 31 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
kids during the day, hubby at night
2007-03-22 08:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually come last but not always. I try to take a little time for myself each week by getting a pedicure or going to the park for an hour or so to read. When I run errands, I alternate between my 3 kids and throw in a nice lunch so that I can spend some one on one time with each of them. I really strive to have a balance. I've learned that if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. When the children are little, they come first. But as they get older, I feel it's important for mom to have a little time alone and mom and dad to have a little time alone. Marriage is important too and my hubby and I have "date night" 3 or 4 times a month. Happy parents raise happy kids.
2007-03-22 18:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by fun_purple_beach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids, husband, me.
My husband and I are the base and our commitment to each other provides the support to raise our family. Our children are helpless and immature and need to be put first - from both of us.
Luckily we're both committed to this. The problems come when one adult demands attention. My mother was very religious and put God first, then my father. i think that if she spent less time praying and pandering to my father, we'd all have a better relationship with her today.
2007-03-22 15:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good balance of all of the above. It's tough satisfying the needs of your family while still maintaining your own sanity. I think it all depends on the demands and how important it is that you fulfill them. Savor what little time you do have to yourself. I'm a student, mom, girlfriend, and daughter. Sometimes I have to let my parents watch my son while I force myself to go to the library for a couple hours. And sometimes, I just need a day to my head so I'll suggest something for my boyfriend and son to do together. BUT I always make sure I am fulfilling their NEEDS (not wants), especially if I am the only person who can. Hope that made sense.
2007-03-22 16:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea lets be honest. I but myself first so that i may be the best that i can be for my husband and my grown kids in college.. in essence i do it for them.. stay fit,look good,think of them and how i can make their lives happy,enjoyable and know that they have a spouse/mother who has always been there for them no matter what. I work hard for my family.. But i do come first out of love for them.
2007-03-22 15:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to feel good in order to be the best mommy and wife so I would say yourself then your husband and then your kids....that's why so many marriages end today b/c we forget that our husbands should be just as important as our children....I'm not saying that my kids come last but if it wasn't for my spiritually and mentally well being and my loving relationship with their daddy they wouldn't be as well rounded as they are today....
2007-03-22 15:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny how everyone answers what they think the popular answer is. The truth is that no one should be ahead of the other. Each person in a healthy household should move into and out of the #1 spot as the situation calls for. Most who claim their children always come first are not being realistic. If your children always come first in every situation then you are not teaching them how a civilized society works.
2007-03-22 16:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids. I have watched my mother put her husband, and her first in our family all of my life, and seen how much it has hurt my siblings and caused problems and embarrasment for them. I think that kids should ALWAYS come first in every given situation because they have no defense of their own, they're relying on the adults in their life.
2007-03-22 15:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Catriona M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids, then my wife. She can take care of herself they're too young to do that yet. But, I always give my wife the respect and dignity she deserves for being a wife and mother. I'm always last on the totem pole. Husbands should always put their families before themselves.
2007-03-22 15:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids.
2007-03-23 14:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD! KIDS! HUSBAND! SELF! Always! as a mother and wife you need to think about your feelings, but these people need you more than ever!
M&M
PS But dont forget in order for your marriage and family to work the one thing you need first is GOD!!!! no matter if you believe or I would rather live my life right to find there is no GOD, than live it in sin to find that there was!!!! Think about it!!!
2007-03-22 15:46:11 · answer #11 · answered by moorememories2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋