He cries, gets on his knees, calls me 24/7 and cries for hours. He leaves long messages crying and everytime he sees me he hugs me and cries. We are not together, but he says that he can't let me go. We have known each other for 8 years, but then we started having problems. I broke up with him and he ended up messing around with a girl. I stopped talking to him and started datng. 3 weeks later he comes back to me crying. He has been crying to me and looking for me for 2 consecutive weeks. 'what should i do?
2007-03-22 08:39:18 · 34 answers · asked by confused1784 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did it! I sent him a text message saying that "If you love someone, you let that person go. If she comes back to you - it was meant to be. If she doesn't - a better person will come along." He called me and I told him that I felt he was being selfish because he was only thinking of his feelings. He wanted me to be back with him so he could feel better. But what about my happiness? I guess he just got tired and told me that he could not take the pain anymore. That he was going to leave me alone. He started to cry and told me goodbye. He hung out and I turned off my phone. I hope he does not call me back! I will keep you guys posted!
2007-03-23 03:24:58 · update #1
Let's just be friends.
2007-03-22 08:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by uisignorant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not the issue. He will hurt when he doesn't get what he wants, everyone does to some extent, no matter what the situation is. But the fact of the matter is........HE HURT HIMSELF by messing around with another girl(if what you meant was that he cheated) if that's not what you meant, and you mean he hooked up after the break up, then its no ones fault. You two aren't built to work together for the long run. You may have been a good fit, but not the BEST fit for each other. If you are worried about hurting him, then you need to NOT go back to him, because you will give him false hope that it will work out, only for him to find out eventually that its not working because its not what YOU want. Which will ultimately hurt him more than if you just let him begin to get over it now instead of letting him think its all fine and dandy, and have to come to terms with it a SECOND time.
2007-03-22 08:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by azwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl do not make the mistake of leading this person on make sure you let them know that u r not interested in them anymore. I mean jus sit down and talk to him whether he is sittin down and cryin while u speak let him know how u feel so that he will get the picture. if there is a possibilty that in the future ya'll could have another relationship then inform him of that. Long story short make sure he knows where u r comin from so that there will be no misunderstandings between u 2. It's been 8 yrs between u 2 so it is hard 4 him right now and hey all in all guys can b more emotional than us
2007-03-22 08:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy he needs to get over you and move on. He's the one who went around dating other people first and now that you've decided to move on all of a sudden he's into you again?? Sounds like hes only trying to see if he can get you back cause other guys are interested in you and he knows it. Either that or its cause the chick he starting dating after you dumped him and so he's coming crawling back, guys have a tendency of doing that once they realize the grass on the other side of the fence is the same as where they started.
Until he settles down a bit I wouldn't even hangout with him, it'll just make things continue on the path it is now, with him balling and whining all the time. Man, that would be annoying I feel for ya! I'd be forced to smack the guy upside the head and tell him to start acting like a man. LOL
2007-03-22 08:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember, you've known him for 8 years, which is a very long time. sounds to me like he really loves you..or needs you; but he shouldnt have messed around with another girl, that just made things worse. you should try telling him the old cliché "I need some space right now". or better yet, tell him to stop crying and act like a man..I mean, I love a man who can cry and show his feelins but cmon...two weeks crying?!? crying excessively shows that he's crazy about you but he's also being immature about the whole situation. If you really care about him you shouldnt ignore him...just sti down..and talk to the guy, calmy and rationally. show him that you dont want to go back with him but that you want to be friends and you'd like to keep on talking. sometimes that thends to calm them down, he wont feel like he's losing you so much.
Good Luck!
2007-03-22 08:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jordi* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good idea for guy to just cry when he wants being forgiven. He may be very flabby or just trying to getting your pity. that is not good because he may be not very sure whether he loves you or not. You would be hurt if you be with him again. Since he may just compare you with the another girl and came back to you, which means that he might go for another new girl too.
If a guy is really sad about losing some relationship, he may cry by himself.
2007-03-22 08:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Playmygame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...wait until he stops crying and calling you here first hun. His mind is quite delicate right now babe. He's upset and depressed and it's all well deserved crap he's serving up to himself too! Just because you broke up with him doesn't give him the right to put on the air of undying love and affection here hun. Love and respect are two way streets hun. Ya only get as good as you give. Give him some time to heal here hun...and tell him to take some time off from you here too. Pain ain't pretty darling...and neither are crying men. It's ok to shed a few tears darling...but not flat out waterfall drowning tears. I don't know what broke you two up and apart hun...but it's absolutely time for both of you two to move away from one another...especially for both your mental healths obviously! Are we cool on this stuff hun?
2007-03-22 08:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience with a guy who was just my friend. He'd call me every night asking me to break up with my bf for him. Or better yet he'd get drunk and call hysterically crying that he loved me and wanted to be with me.
The only way i found that worked to get him to stop was i finally just yelled at him. Told him that there was no "US" and that we'd never be together. That i couldn't handle him calling me like that and that if he called me again i'd change my number. That i didn't want to see or speak to him ever again because he crossed a line. That it was HIS fault and that i never wanted to hear from him again.
Mind you, i tried the nice polite way for like 6 mts and he just got worse. The calls got more frequent and he actually drove from college to my place (4 hrs away) and showed up at my place that i share w/my b/f. To tell me he still loved me.
It's best to cut the cored and do it fast and never look back.
2007-03-22 08:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't without hurting him. You should buck up and stand strong. You can't go through life just trying not to hurt people. You need to cut off all contact so that he gets a clear message that it's over. If you keep talking to him he is going to keep thinking there is some hope of reconciliation.
2007-03-22 08:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your just like all the other evil women in the world. YOu dont give a Flying F about what a guy feels. He may be an overly sinsative guy but hey what do you want to be with a jerk that is going to boss you around. Im sure he is sorry for being a a hole but give him another chance if not your evil and I hope melt in hell with all the other evil women of the world who try to hurt us guys who have been to hell and back for you. Have a nice day but when you turn him down enjoy your eternity in hell you evil demon
2007-03-22 08:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by Marciano 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously he is already hurt and knows you do not want to go back to him. There is no other way to do it without hurting him. The more you try not to hurt him, the more he will take it as hope that you will change your mind. Be upfront with him even if he gets hurt.. He is young and will in time move on. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-22 08:48:33 · answer #11 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋