concerned about my child's day care?

Question

I have 9 month old child and Iam quite worried about his day care. Sometimes in the evening after bringing him home, he looks very aggressive to be held and wants all my attention the whole time. He wont play by himself, and wants to be lifted and pampered all the time. He is still not crawling, but sits without support. Only rarely does he sit by himself after rolling over. Just recently we had been to a birthday party and when he looked at the ballon's he started crying out a lot because of fear. He had never gone out to any parties or seen him play with ballon's. Could this be because some kids at the day care frightened my son by bursting the ballon close to his ear. It made me very very nervous and i was very worried about my son. When I asked day care they say nothing of that sort happened, they keep big kids away from infants. But somehow I feel that day care is not caring for my son very well. When I ask the day care people on when do they play with my child and do they sing, t

Answer 1

Sounds like you have reason to be concerned....I myself don't feel that children in day care centers get enough one-on-one time. I take my children to a daycare at someones house and I am confident that my childrens needs are being met....try finding someone who does it out of their home or will come to yours....and I guarantee you that you will see a big difference. Make sure that the person is certified and always check references.

Good LUCK

Answer 2

My daughter did this for a bit too. Check on the relationship between the adults in the room. In my situation it turned out that the teachers were having problems and while they were still very good to the kids, the kids picked up on the tension. Any good day care will let you drop in unannounced and observe, so try that if you're really worried. As for the balloons, I'm not sure that a 9 m/o has the ability to be "scared". They can be startled, definitely, but the idea behind fear is knowing. An older child may be scared of a balloon because they know it can pop loudly, or be scared of the dark because they know it hides potentially scary things. Babies can't know these things at that age.
Also, your son is at just the right age for separation anxiety to set in which could explain why he's so clingy after you pick him up.
Hope something here helps!

Answer 3

If you have talked to the daycare and they say they keep older kids and balloons away from infants... I would believe them. In the childcare where I work children (even siblings) that are not in the infant classroom are not allowed to enter. And balloons are not allowed in any classroom with kids under 3.
All babies develop at different ages. I would ask your pediatrician if you have questions about sitting and crawling.
If anything, wanting to be held is a good sign. It may mean that he is getting plenty of attention at day care and wants the same type of attention at home. It could also mean that he's searching for assurance that you are there if he needs you.
Feel free to talk to your daycare teachers about your concerns. They may be able to put some fears to rest... they do deal with kids this age day in and day out. You should also be getting a daily report telling you what experiences your child has had that day.
If you still feel that your day care is doing an inadaquate job, even after talking with them and trying to work things out, perhaps you can find a different childcare center.

Answer 4

I don't think this is aproblem of the daycare. If anythingit seems like he is held often and always entertained that is why he is looking for you to do it at home. As far as the balloon thing, maybe he was scared of something else or was scared cause he never saw anything like it before. I highly doubt something has happened to cause a reaction from him. Most day cares keep kids seperated by age and I know that when i worked at one for 3 years we didn'y usually have balloons around because if poped they are a chocking hazard.
But if you feel that something is wrong with the day care then go with your gut and start looking for another. Based on the behavior that you have discussed I don't think it is anything to worry to much about, some kids do crawl and stuff later. You may want to talk to the day care about what he does through out the day and talk to them about what you want him doing. Most have a certain amount of time they sould be on the floor playing and all that stuff. But definatly if you are not comfortable with the care then you should find some place else that you feel more comfortable with.

Answer 5

you could ask yet they probable won't supply you a real answer. They probable say they chosen to pursue different strategies or some thing obscure like that. while my son first started day care approximately sixteen months in the past he replaced into 2 and for some reason they have been changing instructors like quite a few month for a quite a few months. i'm incredibly helpful I knew why the 1st female left. She replaced into large with the youngsters yet had a substantial physique of recommendations concern with each physique else and you should tell she hated her interest. the rest i think of have been trials to work out which instructor labored ultimate in that room. finally they got here across a large female and he or she's nevertheless there. Now he's interior the three 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous room and that instructor has been there for like 12 years. She's large! sure, I do hate it while they adjust the workers. quite while the youngsters are that little. they like stability.

Answer 6

Is his daycare in a home or a center? If it is a center, there should not be any balloons there at all... especially in the vicinity of infants. If that is not the case, and no balloons have been used near the children, some children are just fearful of balloons. Otherwise, the things you are talking about- wanting your attention, won't play alone, wants to be held... are all pretty typical of the age. At nine months, he is at where he should be. Crawling should be coming up soon, so try to help him at home by having him chase you in the crawling position. You can allay your fears by going to visit... don't set up a time to do so, just pop in one day while your son is at school and peek in on him. You should be allowed to visit your child at any time you want.... bring a lunch and join the class at lunchtime, or bring your baby's favorite book to read to him and a few other babies. Not only will you get to see what the dynamics of the classroom are, but you will help to build a trusting relationship with the teachers.

Answer 7

If you feel like something is wrong then it may not be the place for your son. He probably misses you during the day and really wants to be with you at night. As far as the balloons are concerned...new things are often scary for children. It would be very rare for the big kids to be in with such young children and balloons should never be around babies that young, if one bursts a baby can choke.
If you are concerned shop around, a lot of centers have web cams in all their rooms so that you can check on your baby anytime you want. You could also look into home daycare, as a home daycare provider myself, I feel am able to spend more one on one time with the kids I care for...and I am more flexible then most centers on many things. Just make sure you do a background check and be sure to get references.
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Answer 8

I would say that if you were concerned about anything either change day care situations or maybe you could stop by early and unannounced sometimes to see exactly what goes on throughout the day. Almost all day cares should have an open door policy and if not I would definately get the kid out of it. If they wouldn't want you stopping by whenever then in my opinion they could be trying to hide something. I personally do home daycare and I have never heard of anything like that.

Answer 9

My aunt had this problem with her youngest son, he would act out when they would get home from daycare/work. He wanted to be picked up and held, etc...This came from wanting more attention from her. Babies know how to read their mothers, they know that if they cry, their mommy will come and pick them up and hold them close. I think that he just needs more attention from you (not that I think your not giving him enough). So my advice would be, when you get home from work/picking him up at the daycare, set out 45 minutes of just you & him time. Play with him, tickle him, read to him, play "pick a boo", etc... make him feel like although he isn't with you all day, when it is time to come home, it is his time.
Now, I would also make it a point to drop in at an "unscheduled" time for a few weeks this way if something is going on you will see it. If the daycare workers have your schedule down to the "Tee" then they know exactly when to expect you & when to make sure that diapers are changed and nothing is going on. If after a few weeks of changing your schedule & dropping in at all different times, you see that nothing is going on then that may make you feel better and if by chance you do see something that is inappropriate, take your child out immediately & tell someone about it.
Good Luck & God bless.

Answer 10

I think you may be making too much of the situation, it doesn't sound like any type of neglect or mistreatment is going on. I would be more worried about acting out and clinging to you before dropping him off at daycare, bruises, nightmares or bad habits like cussing or hitting. About the crawling thing you should ask the pediatrician if you have one. Kids all develop differently and my friends 18 month old only crawled for 2 weeks at 10 months before he started walking. So dont worry too much about that just yet.