to start off I goth. and I am always being told I'm realy pretty by everyone!!!!! And I'm always being told I have a great personality & I'm smart & and I'm nice/ caring!!!!!!!!!!! Then why don't guys every want to date me!!!!!!!!!! It makes me feel stupid and ugly whenever I ask someome out (I know them And they are single.) they say they'll think about it then say i'm not ready right now then they say when I'm ready we will go out, which i am extremely fine I never pressure anybody to do anything. Then not even a week later they are going out with a preppy/ poser (who has no self respect) with out even giving me a glance. all they could have said was that they didn't want to go out, it's not like I'm going to die from them telling me that. Am I doing anything wrong or does everbody thinks I'm not good enough?
2007-03-22 08:36:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are who you are and you can't change that and should not have to change that for anyone despite what other people think about you, being yourself is the best you can be, don't be anybody that you are not, the right person will come along you just have to have some patience. It is not because of your looks, some guys like the preppy/poser types and you know then they are not your type, you have to time to find that person and when you do you will be happy that you waited. Just keep being you and great things will come to you.
2007-03-22 08:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first off would stop asking the guys. If you like someone there are other ways to show it like flirting a bit and letting them know you are interested. Let them be the guy and if they want it to go further then they will ask. I would also take a look at what kind of guy you are interested in. If you are goth (which is absolutly nothing wrong) and you ask the quarter back out then more then likely he will say no because he is not in your social status. When I was in high school I was pretty versital in popularity but I dated alot of nerds. I realized they payed more attention to me and not what their friends thought. Plus they were shy and for the most part had nothing to prove to anyone so they were not pressuring me into doing things I did not want to. If a person can not look past their social status then why would you want to be with someone who is obviously artificial. See if someone from your group interest you, sometimes as you should know you have to look past the outside and see them for who they are to see the real beauty. That goes for everyone around you even the ones you look at and think Ohh Hell No! Ohh and for all the answers that say you need to lighten up on the goth look dont listen to them........Never change who you are for the benefit of other people, someone needs to except you for who you are not for what you can change to fit into their world...
2007-03-22 15:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are good enough and there is nothing your doing wrong... Just maybe your approach is wrong and your look is too. maybe if you changed your look a little you would appeal to guys more... some times guys want someone that wears a little color I'm not saying become the type of person with no respect for themselves because it is a good thing to have a standard.. but, maybe you can bring your look up a notch and wear a little color and dye your hair a little lighter and wear some nice makeup and you will definitely attract a guy ... you just have to change your look.. black and white are colors that are not looked at so much... I'm not saying wear pink.. but wear something with more color that will bring you out.. and, don't ask a guy on a date let them come to you a man loves a challenge you just seem like your making yourself to available.. Just believe in yourself keep your confidence high dress nice, and let them come to you trust me it works coming from a former goth..
2007-03-22 15:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by nikkiblue 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly most people look at "goths" as rebels that worship the devil and break all laws. When in fact they are mostly very intelligent, artists, very caring of others, involved with world/local issues...With this said, some folks are just plain afraid of you because of the clothes/make-up you choose to wear. My daughter 16 is also "goth" and has only had two BF so far and she is more of a son to me then my own son...lol..
Be you! be who you are and when the right person comes along you'll know. You are just fine the way you are!
2007-03-22 15:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be who you are, not who you think everyone wants you to be. Are you Goth because that's what you are really into or did you do it for other reasons? To be different then all the preppy girls, to stand out, to hide....?
Once you are confortable with who you are, everything else will fall into place. Unfortunately teenagers never seen to be ok with who you are. ( I remember the angst well...) Take a look at what makes you happy and see if you are faking it....being someone you're not for the sake of fitting in. If you are, you will never be comfortable in your own skin.
Self confidence (not arrogance) is one of the sexiest traights a woman can have :-)
2007-03-22 15:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, and no offense, but you're a goth girl. Most guys aren't into goth, except maybe goth guys. Do they not want to go out with you either? Maybe you're not asking the right guys out. I can't pretend to know what is so glamorous about being goth, but maybe you should get rid of all that black and be yourself, maybe try a different hair color, not black, and maybe some "real" makeup. Once again, it is not my intention to offend you, I'm just being real with you. I'm a guy and I have NEVER went out with a goth girl. So, is being a social outcast worth the price of solitude? You'll have to deal with that on your own.
2007-03-22 15:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first, take a while and think of your Crush that is single.
Then think do you want to spend the rest of your life when him. When you are done....at school or call him and get to know him better. Once you have been hanging out together and have been friends....ask him on a date and see what he says. If he says "No" then bring your relationship a little longer.
2007-03-22 18:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not doing anything wrong, personally i think goth girls are quite hot, But people can be quite cruel so dont pay any attention to them, theres someone out there for you dont rush it give it some time, and dont jump at the first guy that comes along.
2007-03-22 15:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being goth is miss understood by our culture. They see you as a threat as an underbelly of life a leach on our society. If folks only know that's its a statement. keep your chin up folks will come around.
2007-03-22 15:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole goth thing scares people actually. I mean no disrespect but you have made your choice now you have to live with it. I would never want my son to bring home anyone gothic and he wont. Sorry
2007-03-22 15:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋