Im leaving for college in about 3 months....do you think my boyfriend and i can make it work being away?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been together since the tenth grade and we're leaving for college in about 3 months. My school from his is about an hour and a half. I just dont know how to make a long distance relationship work.. Any tips or advice?

Answer 1

It's REALLY hard!!!
MY freshman year i was in an all girls dorm and almost all of the girls in the dorm started out with b/f's back home and by the end of that first year not ONE of them was still with their boy from home. It's really hard to be that far away and still have trust. Most of them broke up because their b/f didn't like them hanging out late at school, or going to a party w/o them. They didn't have trust for their partner to not get drunk and do something stupid.
I started dating a guy that was graduating that year and i had one more left, and that summer we moved in together and when i went back to college 2 1/2 hrs away, it was murder. We fought every time i wanted to go out with friends. He'd get jealous if he heard me talking to a guy. And by the end of it i resented him a lot because i felt like i was missing out on my last year in college because he was holding me back from having fun. So i ended up breaking up with him so that i could have my fun and not feel guilty.
AFTER college we got back together, and it's been 2 years since than and we're getting married.

The way i see it is it's going to be really hard, and you might break up, but if you really mean that much to each other you'll find your way back to each other. Or you'll move onto bigger and greater things.

Answer 2

I know it feels like it may be the end of the world...that whole 1 1/2 hours it takes to get to each other. The thing is, if you really care for him, and really want to stay together, and he feels the same way, you can definitely make it work.

My boyfriend and I live only a half an hour away, and we see each other maybe 4 times a week. I have a friend who goes to school in PA and her boyfriend goes to school in NY. They see each other every other weekend by bus, and if they can't make it, it just makes the next time that much more special.

The thing about this hour and a half is that you could easily see each other every weekend or every other weekend with practically no hassle.

In college, you want to have time to try new things and discover things for yourself, so you will not feel the need to see him every single day. Now, if you are asking because you want to make it work, but are worried about it, I'd say give it a shot! If you are asking because you are hesitant to let him go, but you are really interested in going into college unattached, then break up with him (nicely). If you do give it a shot, and it doesn't work, you are still a free woman, and you can break it off.

Good luck, and don't fret about it too much!

Answer 3

well best way to work it out is to talk to him about what may happen like not going to be able to see eachother as much. Its gonna be more of a phone relationship and communication is the main source to keep it working , come to an understanding that u both are willing to go through this change and that there is many bumps. givin u a heads up at times it will get stressful but when u see that its workin youll feel like the luckiest girl alive to be able to maintain such a relationship because it is not easy makin a sacrifice at such age

Answer 4

You should not set expectations unreasonably high. Long distance relationships are very difficult. You'll both be meeting a lot of people when you go off to school. It would be unfair to both of you to try and remain committed through college.

Meet other people, even date. If you discover that no one can compare to the one you met in high school, then you can reconnect over the summer.

I know a lot of couples that tried to make long distance relationships work and they ended up cheating themselves out of other opportunities.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Communication is key!!! Talk to him once or twice a week.. don't over do it because they may feel smothered and push away from you.

Trust him!! I know it's hard to trust someone when they are so far away, but what's the use in being in a relationship with someone if you can't trust one another?

Visit him as much as possible!

Send eachother cards or "goodie boxes" to keep the zing alive.

Talk about him to your friends and the new people you meet so they know the situation you are in and wont pressure you to do things you wouldn't do otherwise.

Keep it simple. If you need a break.. try it. It all depends on how strong your bond is.

good luck!

Answer 6

you've been dating for awhile u have a good chance to make it. im away at college now myself and my boyfriend is about an hour away.we talk every night online and some times on the phone. we also try and see each other every other weekend. i wont lie its not easy but its not impossible. I wish you the same luck i have.(what college?)

Answer 7

Sorry hon but it won't work and who knows it might actually work out for the better. College is an eye opener for so many different things that I think you two will definitely drift apart.

Answer 8

I'm not sure about tips but I know you can make it work. My sister and her now husband started dating when she was like in 11th grade. He went to Carnegie Melon in Pittsburgh, while she went to MIT in Boston. They stuck it out, and visited each other when possible, and everything worked out in the end.

Now they are both happily married in Boston.

So yeah, it can work out.

Answer 9

You will each write a couple of letters, make a few phone calls and within a week he will be with someone else, and you will be drunk at a party making out with some jock.

Answer 10

me and my boyfriend live 45 minutes apart and we still see each other once or twice during the week and all weekend. to make it work, you both must simply desire to make it work or it won't.