Anyone else with a 5 year old dealing with this? My son is 5 1/2, and he has a great group of friends, but sometimes when they come over for playdates he is so rude to them! If they don't do what he wants to do, he'll blurt out "You're not my friend anymore!" and other hurtful remarks. He also never wants to go over his friend's houses, he only wants them to come to our house. He also can be moody at times at home, and seems to have low self esteem. He's constantly saying that he thinks I don't love him and that he's the "worst" at whatever activity we're doing, etc. I am a loving, calm mother, I swear, I don't know where this is comign from! I should add I have a 4 year old son also, who is mildly autistic, and a almost 3 year old daughter. Anyways, I try to reassure him all the time how much I love him and boost his ego, not sure if anyone else runs into this? thanks in advance for any advice/support!!
2007-03-22 08:15:23 · 10 answers · asked by Mom 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hi i think i understand where you are coming from i have a boy and a girl my son has just turned 6 and he says things like im so stupid and i cant do anything right seems to have a right downer on his life i cant understand this either but somtimes i think its to get a bit of attention as his sister is very ruling (she is three)i tell him all the time i love him and how good he is at doing things i think maybe its just a thing they go throught at this age im not sure. all u can do is guide them through life and reassure them where you can he also is nasty to his friends somtimeds but hats just a part of growing up.
2007-03-22 08:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by sarah m 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My little girl is only three but I practically raised my brother who is 11 now. When he was about 5 or 6 he went through a phase where he swore that "nobody loves him". My whole family is very close and so where he was getting this idea from was a question. Later we found out that there was this one kid at school who was being really nasty to my brother and all the other kids. The teacher was aware of the problem and was trying to work with the parents of that kid. A few weeks later, all the "nobody loves me" "I hate you" attitude was gone because that little bully of a kid was no longer teasing my brother.
So maybe there is someone, like his friend or classmate that is teasing him. Or he could be seeing this attitude come from another person and think it is ok to behave like this. Seriously talk to your son and see why he feels that mommy doesn't love him or why he is always mean to his friends. Tell him that his friends feel sad when he is mean to them and ask him if he would like to be treated that way.
2007-03-22 15:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by ve 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am also a mother of a 5 year old boy. I swear sometimes his behavior towards his friends is so rotten. I once thought that I was the only person who thought their child was mean and disrespectful to others, but the more I talk to other moms, the more I see that its just a phase. From what I am told, I can expect this from my 2 year daughter, too.
Something else to think about......he had to hear from one of his friends first that "he wasn't their friend anymore" and realized how much this made him mad. So now when he is upset, he uses the same words back at them.
2007-03-22 15:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by BAJC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a 5 year old cousin and she is the devil!!! So it is normal just make sure that you tell him saying those mean things to his friends is wrong and they may not want to be his friend anymore if he keeps it up.
2007-03-22 15:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wanda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do attend some parenting courses that can give you more tips on how to handle this kind of situation.
Visit www.characterforever.com , which may help you to handle your son.
2007-03-23 07:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by atx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I was you I would get him checked. It sounds like he may just be bipolar. He doesn't like to do anything uncomfertable to him, wants everything his way, and to mention you have another child that is autistic. It kinda runs in that line of mental illness. Not that being Bipolar is a bad thing, but if you don't get him on the medications that he needs to be on, it could hurt him in the future. Also, if it's not bipolar, try riddalin, he might just be ADHD.
Good Luck to you and your family!
2007-03-22 15:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy Lou 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Sounds normal, but what do you do when he's rude to his friends? I assume that he is disciplined, and you do not allow that behaviour?
2007-03-22 15:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by Elise F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is totally normal
2007-03-22 15:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like the "preteen" years! But then it sounds more like someone is filling his head!
2007-03-22 15:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by chef_05_85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEAR
ONE WORD
SPANKING HIS LITTLE BOTTOM HE WILL GET THE MESSAGE SENT TO HIS LITTLE BRIAN OK
TAKE CARE
2007-03-23 00:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋