Do you think he forgives me?

Question

I sent a guy i that I had a crush on a love note anonymously. Then I found out he has a girlfriend. I didn't know at the time I sent him the love note. I decided that he deserved to know who sent it to him so I AIMed him to tell him. They then found my MySpace page. His brother sent me a very angry message telling me to stay away from him. His girlfriend apologized for the message and told me about their relationship. I told her I didn't know about the relationship and that I would have never sent it if I had known. She seemed pretty cool about it and apologized if any of the messages freaked me out. Now I'm afraid of bumping into him on campus again. Like he'll get really mad with me. Do you think he forgives me for all the trouble I caused or he'll ever speak to me again?

I still want to be friends with this guy. I sorta need him for medical school application advice.

Answer 1

Look, we all make those embarrassing mistakes, most of us have been in a situation where we did something unintentionally, and unfortunately, it kind of backfires. You really have no reason to worry about this guy's gf, she sounds very understanding, and went even further than she had to, by apologizing for her boyfriends, brother. I do have a problem, however, when you state you need this guy(the one you AIMed) for his help in filling out papers, and his advice regarding medical school applications. I am not being insensitive, but i feel you need to find help with your paperwork elsewhere, from a different source. If you do not, i think that this girl, (gf of guy) will not be so understanding a second time, if communication is actively pursued by you. Forget about the brother of this guy, it is none of his concern, and i do not believe he will interfere again. I think you like the guy you AIMed, but trying to use the EXCUSE that you need him for his help, is just that an excuse. Let it go, you got off easy, be thankful.

Answer 2

we've all been there. Congrats for taking a chance. There'll be more opportunities in the future with other guys.

Of course he forgives you. The truth is, he probably spends a lot less time thinking about it than you do, if he thinks about it at all.

You need to move on and befriend someone else. You have feelings for him and would be staying friends with him under false pretenses, after he has clearly indicated that he's not interested.

There's other guys for you.

Answer 3

I doubt he'll change the way he acts toward you, because it sounds like his brother's the one with the problem. Meaning: if he didn't talk to you much before, he still won't, but if you had friendly conversations every so often, i doubt that will stop, although it might be a bit awkward at first. If his girlfriend's cool with it, I'm sure he is too.

Answer 4

Seems like the brother is the one with the problem. Not the guy. If it bothered him, then it would have bothered the girlfriend too. I think you're ok.

Answer 5

You're just asking that because you still secretly want to leave the door open if he and his girlfriend break up. Don't worry about it. If he respects his girlfriend, he probably will not talk to you. But I wouldn't take it personally.

Answer 6

Doesnt seem like you caused a problem at all - genuine mix-up. Sounds like his brother causing the problems. If he does have a problem then don't worry about it, he's just being petty.

Answer 7

If he is a good guy he will forgive and forget and stay friends. It is not your fault you did not know he had a girlfriend.

Answer 8

i think you'r saved frm his gf and him its the guy's brother that has a problem i don't thimk u should worry about the guy and the guy's gf i thimk there cool with it