abusive boyfriend?

Question

i dated him 2 yrs and he doesnt respect me when he does something and i tell him NO he doesnt listen and still does it. i shouldnt answer his phone calls or anything should i . If u guys have any easy way like leaving notes on my mirror to remind me i deserve better. i need ur help hayley. help me to save me and my heart from being destroyed again

Answer 1

You'll thank me one day for saying this. Because its what you need to hear whether you realize it or not.

You need to shut up. Seriously. You deserve exactly what you're getting.

That is, until you decide to commit to wanting better. You're pathetic for staying.

Answer 2

Dearest Haley,

"Since thou are not sure of a minute, throw not away an hour".
"Self-respect is the root to Dilegence and Dilegence is the mother of good luck".
"He that lies down with dogs shall rise up with fleas".

Are you at fault?

You might think you are the one who is causing the problem. You may think that his jealousy and abusiveness means he really loves you so much he can't control himself.
You might think because you have friends that are also being abused that this is normal or you may think you can change him.

You would be wrong on any of those counts and statistics prove that beyond a shadow of a doubt. If your boyfriend is abusive now, he will not get better, he will get worse until one day he hurts you really bad or even kills you. It's that serious.


Ask yourself these questions;
If you answer yes to one or more of the following questions about the boy you are dating then you are in danger of having a serious problem. If several of these are yes, get a new boyfriend.

Is he using alcohol or drugs?

Does he have extreme mood swings? Happy one minute and angry the next?

Is he extremely jealous? Does he get into fights with other boys who pay you attention?

Does he use force during an argument or during intimacy?

Does he blame others or make excuses about his problems?

Is he verbally abusive to you? (yelling all the time, putting you down, calling you stupid, threatening you?)

Does he treat his mother with disrespect or is he mean to her? Do former girlfriends say he abused them?

Does he try to control you or tell you what to do, who you can see, where you can go all the time?

Does he try to keep you away from your family or try to make you dependent on him, telling you that he knows what is best for you and your family is always wrong?

I repeat if even two of those things is true, you need to break it off and get as far away from him as possible, because these are all signs of someone who abuses or will abuse women.

If you can break my secret code then you will have proven to be an intelegent and smart woman and can take heed to my words: (Bee, You, Tea, Fool). Good Luck in breaking my code, it will identify the type of person that you truly are.

Examining your Heart's true desire may lead you to some suprising conclusions.

Sincerely,
SuperDave

Answer 3

Why are you having to tell him no? When a person is in a relationship especialy for two yrs they should know the other person well enough to know what button to push and what buttons not to push. Hun you are not his mother and if he is doing things despite how it makes you feel as a woman or a person why are you still with him? He obviously does not have respect for you and on that note does he have respect for women? You need to look at this picture a bit closer and see if this is healthy for you. Take back the power you have given him and be with someone worthy of your love. If he has no respect for you as a woman then if there was kids involved would you want your son to learn how to treat women like he does or your daughter to learn that how he is treating you is the right way so she dates men just like him. Always remember that in all reality you control your heart and you can either choose to give it to someone or take it back from the person who is not worthy of it. Good luck!

Answer 4

If your boyfriend is abusing you then you need to leave him before he can do anything worse, even hurt you in a physical sense. You know that he does not respect you and your wishes, if you feel that answering his phone calls knowing what he is going to say is going to affect you then don't answer your phone, change the number if you have to and maybe think about moving to a new location. Why you are will him to start with is beyond the point, but you need to get out of the relationship before it can turn worse. You need to tell him that you are leaving as well just so he knows you are moving on and that you don't want him to contact you again.

Answer 5

Hi there. I'm single and I don't really know what's going on with your boyfriend. I guess I was controlling and demanding in the past. I don't think like that anymore. Some guys feed of thier girlfriends. But for me, I offer more good than bad, anyway. I always try to treat my soulmate better. Maybe he's having a rough time at work or something is bothering him. Ask him.

Answer 6

The simple answer is NO. You shouldn't answer his calls and actually, you should change your number. It sounds like you already know that you deserve better, but you are having a hard time respecting yourself. Before you can expect someone to love and respect you, you need to love and respect yourself.

Answer 7

No woman should be abused. You need to move on and find someone else. There are lots of nice guys out there, but the better looking they are, the bigger jerks they are. I suggest finding the ugliest guy in a bar and hooking up with him. I'll bet you he's 10x nicer than anyone you've ever dated.

GCW!

Answer 8

piece of advise

my aunt was in the same position, and neded up in the hoptial broken. she has just since come to terms with it....Do you want the same? You dont love him anymore if youare aksing this, you are in love with being with the relationship or obsessed...Either way you are headed for disaster. Your heart will survive this if my aunts can

Answer 9

Tell him it's over, then stop answering his calls, you obviously know you deserve better or you wouldn't be questioning the relationship. Just get out!

Answer 10

Honey Bunny I would tell him to F**k off and leave you alone. because it is bull crap for you to be abused like that. He needs to get over himeself! You deserve so much better then that chick. good luck with this a$$hole.