I have a boyfreind of 6 months. We're very in love, but sometimes get jealous, but really not that often and not a big deal. I was invited to go to vegas with a bunch of sorority friends from college. I want to go, but in the email that i got from the girl that's organizing it, she wrote "and all you girls with bf's better break up with them before this". So... it go me thinking, a lot of people DO cheat in vegas. A LOT! and it usually means nothing at the time,"what happens in vegas..." but it still happens. I don't want to go without him not because i will cheat, but because i don't want him to worry about it the whole weekend. I want him to come too, but i don't think the girls would like that. Do i want to risk an argument or a sore point in our relationship for vegas? Am i over analyzing?
2007-03-22 08:08:17 · 15 answers · asked by TimeWillTell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you cant bring him, dont cheat on him!
Its as simple as that!...If you love him as much as you say, why would you assume that your gonna cheat on him?
Whether you go or not, make a good choice, i'm sure if you go without him you'll be okay as long as you dont cheat!
2007-03-22 08:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by jackiebrawdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The saying was probably only put there because of the stereotype. People cheat because they want to, not because of where they're at. If you really want to know, then just ask him if he thinks it'd be okay, but expect him to want to go to Vegas w/the guys too someday. Relationships are never worry-free but the best thing you can do is always be honest, that way you never walk away from one a lower person - so openly ask him. But I wouldn't bring him on this trip unless the other girls are bringing their guys.
2007-03-22 15:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 and still have not been there. My sister lived there for 2 years and said its a blast! Hopefully your bf trusts you enough that you won't feel uncomfortable going.
I will be going my first time with my b/f, but only because I want to. We have a blast together and like the same things.
I think the girl that sent the email was kidding about getting single, she probably is just trying to hype everyone up for a good time. You Dont have to be bad to have fun. Enjoy yourself!
2007-03-22 15:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, get his opinion and gather how he feels about the whole situation. I do not know you or him, nor your pasts (ie if you were cheaters, had cheaters etc) If either one of you arent comfortable with the idea, then perhaps it would be better if you didn' go, and if you do, figure out some kind of accountability system between the two of you. Perhaps an agreement that phone calls will be answered no matter what time etc. And if you really cant trust each other then maybe its time to re-evaluate the relationship.
2007-03-22 15:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Baldwin...Firefighter/EMT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go in with the attitude of 'Well, everyone who goes to Vegas will cheat' then you'll probably cheat.
The fact that you're thinking it's a possibility tells me that your boyfriend would be right to throw a fit. Hell, I'd throw a fit.
However, if you are very committed to him and feel secure enough in your relationship to go on a trip then why not?
Time with the girlfriends is amazing! Just go in already telling yourself what you will and won't do and STICK TO IT!!!
2007-03-22 15:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definantley arnt over analyzing... but honey go out to vegas with your girls, but reassure your boy that you are going to be good because you love him so much. If you two trust each other then it shouldnt be a problem. but make sure he doenst have the mindset of whatever happens in vegas... because he might do something while you are away, just in case something happens in vegas.
2007-03-22 15:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vegas!!!!! Wooo hooooo!!! Hon you NEEED TO GO! YOU MUST GO!!! And the whole thing with you bf...I wouldn't worry about it. If you trust one another than this really should not be a problem. You still need to preserve some Independence and you bf should not be your whole life. You still need to go and do you own thing with the girls. I wouldn't let my whole life pass me by just because I'm afraid of getting into the argument with my bf. Go and have a BLAST!
2007-03-22 15:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Leyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first. You shouldn't be afraid to ask for the things you want.
If you go, you should check in with him lots, remind him of how much he means to you, how much better Vegas would be with him.
2007-03-22 15:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY care for him, go hang out with the girls but don't tell them you didn't follow directions and as one other member pointed out, call him every chance you get.
2007-03-22 15:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ed A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you're overanalyzing! GO!!! You will have a blast and cheating is not an issue. Right?!? GO!!!
2007-03-22 15:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋