He is only 2
2007-03-22 08:05:07 · 14 answers · asked by BELLA 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
That's right: he is two. temper tantrums are common during the toddler and preschooler years. You have to be patient with him. Ask him what is wrong, maybe he tries to communicate to you with his crying that it's hard to say goodbye to Daddy. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 08:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just misses his dad that's all. He doesn't understand why he has to leave. When he's there his dad is probably focusing on spending fun qualitly time with him doing all the things your son loves. As he gets older it should get easier. Be patient and don't feel guilty. Maybe have a ritual for when you come home with him that you go out for ice cream or something...or his choice of activity if he's good at communitcating. Hang in there.
2007-03-22 15:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tina D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you have joint custody, or something like that. This can be so confusing for the child. Just one question: When his father picks him up from you house, does he cry? Just something to think about. From what you've said, I see no reason for you to feel "guilty." But then, I don't know enough to have an opinion?
2007-03-24 17:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter used to do that all the time and it would really bother me. I dont know what your arrangements are on living but I have my daughter full time except on Friday night. So everytime I would pick her up it was like she didnt want to see me or come near me and then she would pout when we got home. I think the only thing I can think of is that maybe he doesnt want to leave his dads because he doesnt see him as much as you. I would be so upset all the time but now she is 5 and doesnt even ask when she is going to see him anymore and when I pick her up she runs in to my arms. He is young and he doesnt understand why this is happening. Give it time and he will be running to you soon.
2007-03-22 15:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by lmw 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He like spending time with his father. Just try to make plans where you, the father and the son can have fun. And hopefully your son will understand that his father is not leaving him.
2007-03-22 15:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he seeing his father on a set schedule or just every so often? Children need structure and schedules in order to feel secure.
Try setting a strict schedule with your child's father. Give it some time and see if that helps. He may not get so upset if he knows what to expect.
2007-03-22 15:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy43110 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can't imagine how is his feeling , at this age babies usually are so sensitive and the most important thing is that they can't express their feeling , that's obviously he loves his father , and he is used to him because he lives with him , and it's so difficult to take him from the place that he is used to just like that , even with you , so , there is a solution but it might be unsatisfied to you , try to stay with him in his father's house instead of taking him out , until he gets used to you , and also try to notice what does he like in the house and what makes him related strongly to the house , try to get him this thing , and start to take him out gradually , not for all your time with him , but for a little while and if he is OK try to increase the time more and more until he loves to go out with you all the day long ,
2007-03-22 15:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you are a bad mommy. He probably cries because he is used to being with his daddy for a couple of hours or days. The transition going from one parent to another is sometimes hard on little kids.
Don't feel guilty.
2007-03-22 15:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by ve 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
perhaps dad lets him do things that you dont allow him to do, he like the freedom and doesnt like going back to mom at first. perhaps dad does more fun things or buys him toys and whatnot. this makes him like dads house becuase in a 2 year olds eyes, life is all about toys,games,food,and fun. but dont change how you are mama, becuase when he gets older, he will realize that both of his parents are imparitive to his living a successful life. he will form similar bond with you both and enjoy spending quality time with you as well as dad. but as someone above me said, it is very confusing for a child to go back and forth with parents. if you want him to enjoy coming home from dads with you, you can make a ritual, like everytime you pick him up from daddy's, you can go the the playground or park, or get ice cream or something fun like that. then maybe he'll never give you trouble about leaving again.
2007-03-22 15:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by candi b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to spend more time with him. Be the fun person. Just because your an adult doesnt mean that you cant be fun. take him to all these cool places that he would have fun at. dont be too adult like and say "oh dont do that" be fun!
2007-03-22 15:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋