2007-03-22 07:46:17 · 25 answers · asked by Nakkia P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well me a guy had a relationship for 9 months with a girl I loved dearly. I have found that I am not there at this point for a relationship and to be only as freinds. I spent a lot of energy and am exhausted from the relationship to end the way it did. If you loved him... dear........ it to me will take time.... also to me its not dating its just to hang out.
2007-03-22 08:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by designnews440 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sorry to hear you are hurting. But I also definitely think you should stay single for a while. Months at minimum, a year or more wouldn't hurt. I got married at age 19. Straight from Mom's house to living with a husband...divorced after some years and was back living with Mom (financial reasons), the married again...when that (short) marriage ended I went back to Mom's until I found a place of my own. I was 30 yrs old and for the first time I was independent. I learned who I was as a single, self-sufficient adult. It was a great time for personal growth and reflection. You need to take this time for yourself also, and learn who you are as an "I" and not a "we". Spend time with friends, take up a hobby, take a class, do volunteer work, or anything you've wanted to do but didn't because you didn't take the time or were busy spending it with a partner. Until you are comfortable and happy as a single person, you won't make a good partner for someone else. When you look at relationships as a groovy bonus to your great life, but not a "need" is when you'll be in good place to be in one. Take care of YOU. Don't rush into anything (relationship). Be picky when he time comes (never settle!), and realize that it's okay to be single and you'll be just as happy as you decide to be.
2016-03-28 23:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too just broke up with my boyfriend and have thought about dating but I think it's better to give it some time before you rush into anything. When I started seeing my ex about a year ago, he had just recently gotten out of a 3 yr relationship and I feel that he carried some of his problems from his last relationship into this one. For instance, he had trust issues because his last girlfriend screwed him over, he wanted to rush into things, he told me he loved me way before I was ready to hear it, and it was just the constant need to be with someone that he was used to. You really ought to give it some time hun. You dont want to be carrying baggage from your last relationship into a new one. Something that may have been meant to be could be completely thrown away because you werent really as ready as you thought you were. In all honesty, I think you should remain single for a little while longer just to get accustomed as to what it was like to be on your own again. You've got to remember who you are as an individual before you rush into anything new. You dont want to end up being dependent upon a man to feel fullfilled. You dont want to go into dating and a new relationship still damaged from the last one. Instead you want to be able to give all of yourself, right?
2007-03-22 07:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on if you are ready or not if you think you are ready to start dating then go for it and if you think you can use some time then you should take the time that you need and if the reason why you want to start dating again is because someone likes you they should be willing to wait until you are ready
2007-03-22 07:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by stars52006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should definitely wait. Try to think straight before jumping into another relationship and what it would mean for you. Would you want just another fling with no strings attached or are you looking for a long term and stable relationship. It all depends on your state of mind. How you want things in the future then decide to wait or go for it.
Personally, i think a lil fun dosnt hurt anyone :)
2007-03-22 07:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by Salman Hashmi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the quick rule is half the amount of time you were with your boyfriend. If you were together for 6 months....give it 3 months before you do anything serious. Now that doesnt mean not to go on dates. It just means give it some time before you get into another relationship.
2007-03-22 07:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by joeinchino2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, if your ready go for it! I hate when poeple say you need to wait, why wait what's the point if you are over him. If your not over him than the worse thing that could happen is you'll have a nice transitional period meeting some new people.
2007-03-22 07:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by whoswhomwho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should wait, if you hook up with someone right after you and your boyfriend broke up, it will look bad on you and make it seem like you are not considerate to your x's feelings... You should wait about 3 wks or so
2007-03-22 07:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_golfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be a good idea to give yourself a little time to get over your emotions before starting something new. It's would be to easy for you to become vulnerable and taken advantage at the state of mind your in.
2007-03-22 07:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by arenaimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is up to you. If you're doing it just because you feel the need to have a companion, then no.
If you find someone you really like, then yeah, it might be worth a shot.
Don't do anything as a fling in retalliation after a breakup.
2007-03-22 07:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋